My wife and I have been married for 9 years now. We have 3 children together. Before we meet, she dated women and had at one time a 3 year mono relationship with a woman. Within the past few years I could tell that she missed the touch of a woman. We lightly talked about it a few times. She would say things like "Lets get a girlfriend". It didn't take me long to agree, but the problem is that her attraction is to a more masculine woman. A woman who I would not like and whom would not like me. For about a year now I have known 100% that she needed to express herself for who she is. I told her that she needed to find a girlfriend. It didn't take long for that to happen. She has meet a wonderful woman and they are happy. The three of us have had discussions of polygamy, time sharing, and the future. I am completely ok with the idea of her having a girlfriend, but I think it has gone too far. It has been the plan the entire time that my wife and I would not break up the marriage because we are best friends and we want our children to have both parents at home.
Well, Its less than a month now and I know for 100% fact that she is in love with the new woman way more than she loves me. She has told me that she would not sleep with me anymore because she deems it weird. She also mentioned that for a few years she has only had sex with me because we are married and she had obligations to do so. Now that she is back into the lesbian lifestyle, she knows that is where she needs to be. Where does this leave me? I can't stop her from being lesbian. Is this a poly relationship or am I just aware that my wife has a girlfriend and is quickly pulling away from me. Should I leave the relationship? So many questions. I am lost.
Well, Its less than a month now and I know for 100% fact that she is in love with the new woman way more than she loves me. She has told me that she would not sleep with me anymore because she deems it weird. She also mentioned that for a few years she has only had sex with me because we are married and she had obligations to do so. Now that she is back into the lesbian lifestyle, she knows that is where she needs to be. Where does this leave me? I can't stop her from being lesbian. Is this a poly relationship or am I just aware that my wife has a girlfriend and is quickly pulling away from me. Should I leave the relationship? So many questions. I am lost.