LoveForTea
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The way I see it, Cdb931 is communicating clearly with us here who aren't emotionally invested. And he and his GF are not communicating effectively with each other in this matter, as neither of them seems to be taking in and reflecting the other's feelings and making them feel heard.
This may or may not be an insurmountable conflict. My view aligns with @fuchka here. And I imagine that both of them would benefit from learning to be more responsive when tough feelings come up, whether their future is separate or togehter.
This may or may not be an insurmountable conflict. My view aligns with @fuchka here. And I imagine that both of them would benefit from learning to be more responsive when tough feelings come up, whether their future is separate or togehter.
This is a great way to reframe it, I am sure I will find this useful for myself. I appreciate you for writing that!For myself, I try to re-frame emotions by asking myself if I would feel the same way if the circumstances were the same but the cause was unrelated to sex. As an example, would you be experiencing the same animosity about taking a break from sex if the reason for needing to do so were different? What if your partner needed to leave for a month on a work assignment? Or wanted to go climb mount Everest? I find this sort of activity useful when I am trying to identify what emotions are a result of sexual programming. With that information you can better understand how to work on those emotions if that is the sort of thing you have the desire to work on...