Hotwife to poly

I'm so sorry this happened to you, man. I have to admit I'm in a similar situation except I'm the other guy. My girlfriend was forced to break up with me after her husband learned we were in love and developed feelings after a "swinger/threesome" relationship started. He didn't want "feelings" to get involved but they did. We also had a secret WhatsApp conversation we shared (per her request) and since our break up, we've seen one another a few times. Not sexually, but to check in and such. It's been very hard for us both to break it off. They're back to swinging and she's working to commit to distance between us.

Again, I'm so sorry this happened to you. I truly am. I just wanted to give a different perspective as I understand how difficult it is to just "cut it off." I hope you guys don't judge me here. I just hope to deliver some understanding that "feelings" are somewhat out of our control; especially in a physical, sexual, emotional setting. Good luck and we're here to help.

- B.
 
crzyboutfun said:
I'm so sorry this happened to you, man. I have to admit I'm in a similar situation except I'm the other guy. My girlfriend was forced to break up with me after her husband learned we were in love and developed feelings after a "swinger/threesome" relationship started. He didn't want "feelings" to get involved but they did. We also had a secret WhatsApp conversation we shared (per her request) and since our break up, we've seen one another a few times. Not sexually, but to check in and such. It's been very hard for us both to break it off. They're back to swinging and she's working to commit to distance between us.

Again, I'm so sorry this happened to you. I truly am. I just wanted to give a different perspective as I understand how difficult it is to just "cut it off." I hope you guys don't judge me here. I just hope to deliver some understanding that "feelings" are somewhat out of our control; especially in a physical, sexual, emotional setting. Good luck and we're here to help.

- B.
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I don't judge you.
NRE is so strong. Twelve years ago I broke my monogamous relationship because I could not let go of it (I fell in love before anything really happened, the potential was enough).
 
enigmastag said:
This all makes sense. We have closed the relationship for now while we make sense of everything and fix our boundaries. We started reading some books together too and have started with Polysecure. In her effort to make me happy I think she has agreed to lots of boundaries, such as communication and privacy things, but as she has gotten deeper with her partners and the emotional bonds she seems to regret or want more freedom now. She hasn’t came out and said this, but these are the areas we fight over and where she has been secretive. I think in a perfect world she would love her own individual dating life. I have freedom to see other women as well. I had a online girlfriend for a little bit but it doesn’t really interest me at all.
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Good. Keep reading. If all you want to do is use your wife as a sex object for your own pleasure, while she wants to actually romantically love others, I think you are intrinsically incompatible. We can't change each other. We can only change ourselves.
 
Tinwen said:
I don't judge you.
NRE is so strong. Twelve years ago I broke my monogamous relationship because I could not let go of it (I fell in love before anything really happened, the potential was enough).
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thank you for your feedback and lack of judgment. it's really difficult to be honest about this, BUT it's the truth!!!! I commend you for falling in love and realizing that was enough)...
 
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