I'm sorry you struggle.
they do know each other briefly and want to spend more time getting closer so there wont be any awkwardness, they know it is a relationship
Then leave it up to them to develop a relationship. They are the ones that want to spend more time getting closer to lose the awkwardness? Great! They can figure that out. You don't have to arrange anything for them just because you are the hinge. They can deal with their own calendars.
All i want is in this type of situation how do i make it easier for my long term BF and my new BF to be more comfortable around each other so that none of them feel left out.
You cannot control their comfort level. That's up to them.
You can make it easier by asking them their preferences and not forcing a group hang out if people don't want to do that. Some people prefer a very separate V. Like they know about each other and can contact each other if something emergency happens to you, but they don't want to hang out to watch movies on Saturday night.
If they do want to get to know each other? You can give them each other's contact info, and then step back and let them figure it out.
cause i don't want to lose them
I get that. At the same time? People's consent to be here in this V? Belongs to them. If either one wants to quit and stop doing this? They can. Just like if you get to a place where you want to quit and stop doing this? You can.
It's just part of dating. Not everyone you date is going to be long haul compatible. You don't have to be afraid of a break up. It's ok to just enjoy how this unfolds and see what happens.
just want it to be stress free
What is stressing you out? This part?
now that i have found someone else who wants to be my boyfriend its been a little stressing and when i see my partner is going to hook up i get jealous
Jealous means you are afraid someone is going to take away something you have. What are the hook up people gonna take away? Or what is BF gonna give away or take away?
Envy is when someone has something you want for yourself. What does BF or the hook up people have that you want?
so they both know i love them and can share me
Then love them. And share your time and attention with them. Honor commitments in the order made.
I mean, if they both know they are here in a V with you as the hinge? They already know they are sharing you.
Are you stressing out because both BFs are relatively new? You've only been dating BF for 4 mos, and then NBF for less than that? Is this your first time in a V?
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