I know the title is crude but I cant dance around the issue I am having... Blowjobs. I don't know if it is okay to talk about this here or if I need to censor the details. If so, let me know, and I will edit out the gritty details.
Ok, where do I start? My husband and I got in an argument and things were said that cannot be unsaid and I do not know how to feel, how to proceed, or if this is normal...
Many years ago, when my husband and I started dating, I bragged about loving to give my ex blowjobs, and it caused some friction, through which I learned a thing or two about oversharing with my husband. I did, at the time, try to respond in kind by giving my husband blowjobs, as well. But there is just one little thing-- his semen just plain tastes awful. It literally gags me when he finishes in my mouth. That is not an exaggeration. It triggers my gag reflex and sometimes I vomit. So, over the years, we have stopped doing it and I think he feels rejected by it, or jealous of my ex. I'm not sure. We don't talk about it anymore.
Recently we were speaking carelessly and he let slip that his gf doesn't like to have sex late at night, but "always" gives him a blowjob before bed because it helps him sleep. I was literally shocked, and blurted out something about how gagging before bed must make it harder for her to sleep. Anyway, it blew up because he was offended and defensive. Apparently, this woman just loves going down on him and likes the way he tastes. Apparently, if he could spend every night with her, that would be just perfect for him, because she blows him nightly, and he just sleeps so well at night with her.
Am I just out of touch here? I thought blowjobs were more of a special occasion thing, like okay, it's your birthday, big boy! Are daily blowjobs a thing? Is he lying? Is this about me, and our oral sex issues? Is she really giving him blowjobs every single night they are together? I do not know what to make of this or how to feel.
Ok, where do I start? My husband and I got in an argument and things were said that cannot be unsaid and I do not know how to feel, how to proceed, or if this is normal...
Many years ago, when my husband and I started dating, I bragged about loving to give my ex blowjobs, and it caused some friction, through which I learned a thing or two about oversharing with my husband. I did, at the time, try to respond in kind by giving my husband blowjobs, as well. But there is just one little thing-- his semen just plain tastes awful. It literally gags me when he finishes in my mouth. That is not an exaggeration. It triggers my gag reflex and sometimes I vomit. So, over the years, we have stopped doing it and I think he feels rejected by it, or jealous of my ex. I'm not sure. We don't talk about it anymore.
Recently we were speaking carelessly and he let slip that his gf doesn't like to have sex late at night, but "always" gives him a blowjob before bed because it helps him sleep. I was literally shocked, and blurted out something about how gagging before bed must make it harder for her to sleep. Anyway, it blew up because he was offended and defensive. Apparently, this woman just loves going down on him and likes the way he tastes. Apparently, if he could spend every night with her, that would be just perfect for him, because she blows him nightly, and he just sleeps so well at night with her.
Am I just out of touch here? I thought blowjobs were more of a special occasion thing, like okay, it's your birthday, big boy! Are daily blowjobs a thing? Is he lying? Is this about me, and our oral sex issues? Is she really giving him blowjobs every single night they are together? I do not know what to make of this or how to feel.