Casual Sex - Discussion

Read this thread, needed cold shower... Then saw William Hung.
Yup, William Hung works SOOOO much better then cold shower. Thanks, I think?
LOL.
Oh oh, I read a quick comment about amateur porn on this thread. Hmm...
Casual sex with a video camera + a consenting partner = a possible "excuse" for casual sex, for me, anyway.
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Joking! Or am I?
Dammit, now you gots me wondering if I still think casual sex is wrong for me cuz you've combined my love of videography with casual sex...
LOL
 
Way to kill the thread, Honestheart... :(
OK, fine, so in the 60s we had free love or casual sex, no strings.
In the 70s we had disco, still casual sex, no strings.
In the 80s we had AIDS and safe sex movements.
In the 90s we had the movement "Sex is special, do it with somebody you love."
So what do we have for the new millennium? Are we now a "Do whatever works for you as long as it is done safely" kind of society, where casual sex or free love is acceptable as long as it is done safely?
And another question-- with sex can come the baby.
 
Actually I think the thread was heading toward doomage once we started talking specifics about casually being sexed. :)

Hmm... I don't know what the millennium brings in regards to sex. My vision is skewed because of where I live, so I don't know what the kiddies are doing.

I know it appears more people are into experimenting than ever. That's a natural progression because of the internet, with kinks and fetishes being so readily available.
 
Honestheart said:
What do we have for the new millennium? Are we now a "do whatever works for you as long as it is done safely" kind of society, where casual sex or free love is acceptable as long as it is done safely?
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My hopes have always been that people can simply understand sex for the basic natural, biological function that it is. No different that eating or sleeping. Enjoy it, celebrate it, market it if you want to, share it when possible, and wash your food!

GS
 
GroundedSpirit said:
... Enjoy it, celebrate it, market it if you want to, share it when possible and wash your food !
GS
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Nicely said. :)

Although I am somebody who believes that, for me anyway, sex is an expression of love and should be treated as something special. So, as such, I don't practice casual sex. However, I respect other's opinions and do not thrust mine upon them. So, as such, I adopt a very "as long as it is safe" kinda mentality to other people's approach to sex. I'm just curious if this is because of me, or if it is a new view of society kinda thing, or maybe my faith (mostly Christian, right now).

Despite disagreeing with casual sex being right for me, I really respect other's opinions and I do like how you put your idea across about how you feel about sex and definitely can see the wisdom in your view, :) because after all, sex CAN just be sex and nothing more. To me personally, it is more. but I know people who can have sex and it be just sex. So again, I see the wisdom in your words. Once again, Grounded, nicely said!
 
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Here's my two cents. As someone who hasn't really done the casual sex thing, I can only share what about it appeals to me and what doesn't. I'm far too self-conscious to just hook up with a total stranger. It may be exciting and fun, but I think I need that trust and connection. I do like the idea of having a 'friends w/benefits' type thing, a 'casual' arrangement, someone who I have a connection with, but who doesn't have an interest in becoming my partner, like my husband or boyfriend.

What appeals to be about sex with other people is that it's different. That person is physically different and also comes with a whole different set of experience (and talents). That's not to say that sex with one person isn't satisfying, but I think that sex with different people has the potential to be a great teacher. In my own case, my sexual experience is very limited. Embracing a non-monogamous life has opened my eyes to the possibilities out there.

And for the record, I LOVE giving blow jobs ;) for all the reasons previously stated in this post.
 
I had casual sex with my husband last night; I gave him a blow-job, too, and it was very casual. Nothing formal about it.
 
Has anyone read the book "Ethical Slut"?

Has anyone read the book "Ethical Slut"? It's a very good book that I personally can relate to.

I am accepting of my desire to experience others for the period of time that I am able to spend with them, be it socially, sexually, or in some cases both.

The book's author banters back and forth a little, but finally ends up siding with the open-minded and sexually adventurous. Considering each of this forum's posts, it really becomes what is right for you at the time. It really does not matter what any one else thinks.

Just thought I would provide my thoughts.

RedPepper quote: I agree there is too much emphasis on threesomes, but being in the porn industry I like the emphasis on ASS FUCKING. LOL

Talk soon.
 
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We have discussed "The Ethical Slut" so much on here it might even be tagged. It's in a thread on books, for sure, if anyone feels like finding and posting the link.

It seems that the book has one of two effects on those who read it. The first is glee and joy, in that the reader feels understood, and the other is dread and threat, in that the reader thinks the protection of their relationship world will come crashing down. It depends on who is reading it.
 
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You fancy people who own a TV. :rolleyes:
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Hon, I don't own a TV, but I have the internet. How could this guy NOT cross your radar? It was like the biggest YouTube thing for a solid month!

You seriously need to check it out. It's funnier than funny.

Did y'all know he went on to put out his own album, full of horrible renditions of all sorts of pop songs, Backstreet Boys, etc.? It's SO funny! And... just... wrong...
 
I'm gonna be honest. I have that book sitting underneath my bed. I read the first 4 pages and was like, "Duh" and sort of drifted off into the next interesting thing. I've read somewhere up to 20 excerpts and if I ever need to sort of "debate" poly, I might pick it up as a reference.
 
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i'm gonna be honest...i have that book sitting underneath my bed. I read the first 4 pages and was like, "...duh" and sort of drifted off into the next interesting thing. Though, i've read somewhere up to 20+ excerpts and if I ever need to sort of..."debate" poly, i might pick it up as a reference.
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That's pretty much what my experience was with TES. If there was ever a time when I was glad that I borrowed a book from the library instead of buying it, this is it.
 
I have had casual sex in the past and like it quite a bit.

I personally (and there are definitely people who see it VERY differently), I have an odd relationship with sex overall. With very few exceptions, sex is something that I enjoy immensely, and at the same time it is something that irritates me to no end. The reason it is irritating (the enjoyment is obvious, I think) is because sex is the root cause for a lot of my difficulties in relationships. About 95% of the bad relationship decisions I've made (staying with people when I should have left, dating people who I shouldn't be dating, leaving people that I should stay with, etc.) have been because of sex. To be blunt, if it weren't for sex, I'd probably be a monk or priest.

For me, sex is a strong need. Once a week is fine (two to three times a week is ideal, but that is to me almost "mythical" and very unrealistic), every other week is passable. The thing is, most women I've met that there is any mutual chemistry with are more of once a month to once a season types.
 
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