Hello, so I've met this girl at a concert of mine 1 month and half ago. She became a fan of our music and I talked a bit with her in the concert but she seemed a bit shy so I didn't push conversation too much. One day later and sent a text to congratulate us. I was the one to reply on our official page and noticed it was her.
As we were needing someone to do a photoshoot for us and I noticed she did have some photoshoots with merch from a brand of a friend of ours I reached out to her.
She seemed eager to do the photoshoot. I kept things mostly professional and did only a few questions here and there. She seemed still be a bit shy too so I didn't press her much to talk and kept mostly on topic.
So we kept arranging stuff for the photoshoot, only talking irregularly and I didn't think too much of it.
However, 2 weeks ago we were talking about some photoshoot stuff and eventually started talking about a bunch of unrelated topics and her curiosity did an 180 and started engaging much more and overall feeling more confident.
We then spent these last 2 weeks talking everyday.
We would talk about many things and she did become much more open, talking of herself too (while still being a bit insecure).
Basically last Thursday, out of the blue she invited me to the medieval fair from my city to hang with her and other two people (a couple I knew, one of them being our band photographer). She is not originally from here and was studying quite far, her original city is around 45 minutes from here however.
It went by pretty well and while she was a bit shy at first, by the end of the night she talked a ton.
Thinking about our day, I realised this could be someone I could develop strong feelings. I know a part of it is infatuation but still I felt we clicked really well.
Now comes one of the problems. I never asked her age and she seemed mature and her style/looks made me think she was around 23-26 years old. However I found out when we were on the fair that she was 21. (Yeah I know, could have asked sooner)
I am 31 so she seems too young for me despite being mature.
So right now I'm struggling between having developed some feelings for her and needing to end them.
The day afterwards I basically couldn't bring myself to talk with her so I gave some short answers to her texts and haven't engaged in any way until today.
We have one photoshoot coming up this week so I know she will reach out again probably tomorrow. I will talk about it but I just feel like not talking at all.
I'm not even sure if she has some or any feelings at all. Quite likely she hasn't so hopefully on her part it won't hurt her if I'm more distant.
Of course there is the whole poly thing which makes it even worse. ( I have a girlfriend of 7 years btw). I don't want to be responsible to maybe harm her with that too.
I basically wrote this mostly to vent out, tbh. If anyone wants to give an opinion or advice I'll read though. But I guess there isn't much that can be done here.
As we were needing someone to do a photoshoot for us and I noticed she did have some photoshoots with merch from a brand of a friend of ours I reached out to her.
She seemed eager to do the photoshoot. I kept things mostly professional and did only a few questions here and there. She seemed still be a bit shy too so I didn't press her much to talk and kept mostly on topic.
So we kept arranging stuff for the photoshoot, only talking irregularly and I didn't think too much of it.
However, 2 weeks ago we were talking about some photoshoot stuff and eventually started talking about a bunch of unrelated topics and her curiosity did an 180 and started engaging much more and overall feeling more confident.
We then spent these last 2 weeks talking everyday.
We would talk about many things and she did become much more open, talking of herself too (while still being a bit insecure).
Basically last Thursday, out of the blue she invited me to the medieval fair from my city to hang with her and other two people (a couple I knew, one of them being our band photographer). She is not originally from here and was studying quite far, her original city is around 45 minutes from here however.
It went by pretty well and while she was a bit shy at first, by the end of the night she talked a ton.
Thinking about our day, I realised this could be someone I could develop strong feelings. I know a part of it is infatuation but still I felt we clicked really well.
Now comes one of the problems. I never asked her age and she seemed mature and her style/looks made me think she was around 23-26 years old. However I found out when we were on the fair that she was 21. (Yeah I know, could have asked sooner)
I am 31 so she seems too young for me despite being mature.
So right now I'm struggling between having developed some feelings for her and needing to end them.
The day afterwards I basically couldn't bring myself to talk with her so I gave some short answers to her texts and haven't engaged in any way until today.
We have one photoshoot coming up this week so I know she will reach out again probably tomorrow. I will talk about it but I just feel like not talking at all.
I'm not even sure if she has some or any feelings at all. Quite likely she hasn't so hopefully on her part it won't hurt her if I'm more distant.
Of course there is the whole poly thing which makes it even worse. ( I have a girlfriend of 7 years btw). I don't want to be responsible to maybe harm her with that too.
I basically wrote this mostly to vent out, tbh. If anyone wants to give an opinion or advice I'll read though. But I guess there isn't much that can be done here.