“Demi” Goddess (35/married/f/demisexual panromantic)

Demi-Goddess

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Hey there, folks!

Here’s a bit about me: I’m 35, demisexual/pan-romantic, cis woman. I’m married to my lovely nesting partner of 10 years (and friend of 20+ years) — 36/cis male/pansexual — who has been supportive of my newfound interest/understanding that I am discovering I’ve likely always been polyamorous.

Husband was a bit confused/concerned at first, but has been open to discussion/education regarding the subject. He has since grown to be supportive of me, and polyamory, and has shown an interest/willingness to open up our relationship (beyond the current theoretical).

Currently, I’m involved in two other unusually intimate friendships that have periodically edged into more romantic territory in the last six months — though nothing too concrete beyond a few kisses in one relationship months ago (and it hasn’t really come to anything) and some date-like handholding in another. (I swear I am a grown woman, but ffs, I get giddy about small affections).

We live in a conservative area in California, and everyone comes from conservative families, so unfortunately this journey has been fairly isolated to just me, tbh. My husband hears all about it, though, and he’s helpful in encouraging me to continue to put myself out there, though I am not actively looking to date/new partner(s).

I’m here because I want to know more about polyamory. I have been reading books and blogs, trying to better educate myself. I also have aspirations to go back to college for a degree in psychology emphasizing on human sexuality and gender studies, so I find polyamory incredibly interesting both personally and professionally.

I’m a creative jack-of-all-trades who loves arts and crafts, theatre and costumes, baking, tea, and interesting conversations. I’m a feminist, pro-vaccine, liberal, and not afraid to fight for justice.

I’m mostly here to make friends and better learn how to navigate this world, so thanks for reading this far. 😁
 
Hello! Welcome to the forum!
Kudos to you for following your curiousity and reading, learning, thinking!
Everybody follows a different path - I'm glad that yours has led you here.

Jane("Thank-U-4-Vaxxing")Q
 
Hi Demi-Goddess, and welcome, I hope being here will alleviate some of that isolation. I say that from a small town in New Zealand so I get it, lol.

That's really cool you are interested in going back to college for psych with human sexuality and gender studies, and your interest in theatre and costuming - awesome. I have a metamour who does just that :) I envy the skill, I really wish I was better with a sewing machine or hand sewing. When I was in the theatre, I did lighting, which I loved as it brought the set and costumes to life.

Check our some of our stickies on various subforums for more info on polyamory etc. and feel free to join in with discussions or start more of your own 😊

Evie
 
Hi Demi G,

Like you, I am a newbie to posting here. I am delighted that there are some far more experienced folks than me here willing to share. And everyone seems to be honest and courageous.

In moderation, a little can go a long way. Congrats in getting a feel for things. And excellent work keeping the communication up with your spouse. That in of itself is quite healthy.

At least in my view, intimacy can be on a spiritual plane, within the willingness to take down my emotional defenses in a relationship. It is figuratively removing my spiritual clothing, wetsuit, armor, etc. Although I am CIS male, one of my most “spiritually intimate” relationships, is with a bi-sexual male. It is virtually platonic and going strong for decades.

Welcome!
 
Greetings Demi-Goddess,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Polyamory.com is a great place to learn about polyamory, plus it can be like a launching pad for other resources on the subject. To make friends here, you need merely participate on the various threads and boards, read and post, let people get to know you even better. You have started in the right place, you have introduced yourself on the intro board. I look forward to reading more of your posts!

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

Notes:

There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!

Please read through the guidelines if you haven't already.

Note: You needn't read every reply to your posts, especially if someone posts in a disagreeable way. Given the size and scope of the site it's hard not to run into the occasional disagreeable person. Please contact the mods if you do (or if you see any spam), and you can block the person if you want.

If you have any questions about the board itself, please private-message a mod and they'll do their best to help.

Welcome aboard!
 
We love to travel meet people. We live in southern cali. We can get to know you. Luis and Carmen.
 
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