Ex's are back and I'm ecstatic but....

Update 1

He wants to cook breakfast for me when I done with work in the morning. So when I asked when he said as soon as possible. I said ok I'll need a address and I'll message you when I done. Nothing all day. Then I said I hope your up when I done and I get to see you otherwise I'm going to be sad. Nothing. We will see in the morning. I'm not going to get ready when I get home unless I know he's wants me to come. But I'm not waiting around either. I have laundry, car to wash, and things to do before my uncle and cousins come over on Monday.
 
Update 2

Second guy that lives six hours from me got pissed at me and upset and yelled in text. When I told him to come down slow down. He was all ready planning ideas of us going to visit his sister in Las Vegas. I didn't even meet him yet. We can have sex inside and outside she doesn't mind. I was like come down. He's made cause I didn't know he was talking in the future. I tried to call to explain but he's like Ok settle down and quite overthinking. You assume I'm saying everything is now. It's like you don't think that I'm saying or meaning later on down the road. I feel that fast.
He goes on I said DON'T CALL I'll call you or text you Now I'm very pissed so please leave me be. I tired of the insinuating or assuming all the time! So one final time I'll say this.. I WILL CALL OR TEXT. See ya going to bed.this is after he was talking to his mother.
 
Jeez! Maybe NOT very good potentials after all.

Sometimes it takes a while to find compatible people. Don't spend too much time on the ones that are not a match.

GL!

Galagirl
 
Gria, you seem to have English as a second language. Do you have a language barrier when talking to your SOs or dating prospects?I'm going to edit your previous text a bit to make sure I understand what is happening.

Gria2004 said:
We have been over since I posted that. He didn't want to talk everyday, but could not tell me when we would, so it ended.

Since then I re-uploaded my profile to an online dating site. I have two guys interested in me. One farther away and one only about 30 minutes from me.

It's crazy because I go from no hits to lots of hits, and two I'm excited about. The one closer to me, we might have a date on Sunday morning, since I work nights, and also I will have a crazy week with extra family in town. The only reason I say "might," is because when I texted him about Sunday coffee/tea in one message, I was also writing another message about the two other nights that might work. And then I went to bed to be ready for work.

He text messaged really soon saying, "We can." So I asked him, "Which one would work?" I didn't hear anything by the time I got up for work at 10 pm. I messaged him, "How about coffee/tea 8am at a place by me that makes great chai tea?" Chai tea his favorite. We will see when he wakes up. So nervous and excited. He is close to perfect.
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Gria2004 said:
He wants to cook breakfast for me when I get done with work in the morning. So I asked him when.He said, "As soon as possible." I said, "OK, I'll need an address, and I'll message you when I am done." Nothing all day. Then I said, "I hope you're up when I am done, and I get to see you. Otherwise I'm going to be sad."

Nothing (no reply). We will see in the morning. I'm not going to get ready to see him when I get home unless I know he wants me to come. But I'm not waiting around either. I have laundry, my car to wash, and things to do before my uncle and cousins come over on Monday.
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Gria2004 said:
Second guy that lives six hours from me got pissed at me and upset. When I told him to calm down, slow down, he yelled in text.

He was already planning ideas of us going to visit his sister in Las Vegas, but I haven't even met him yet. He said, "We can have sex inside and outside. She doesn't mind."

I was like, calm down (about sex). Then he's mad because I didn't know he was talking about the future. I tried to call to explain, but he's like, "OK, settle down and quit overthinking. You assume I'm saying everything is now. It's like you don't understand that I'm saying, or meaning, later on down the road."

I feel that fast. [?]

He goes on... So, I said, "DON'T CALL. I'll call you or text you. Now I'm very pissed, so please leave me be. I'm tired of you insinuating or assuming all the time! So one final time I'll say this.. I WILL CALL OR TEXT. See ya, I'm going to bed." This is after he was talking to his mother.
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Is that how things happened with your 2 dating site guys? They sound like duds. There is poor communication. Move on.
 
Update

I meet the close guy for tea. He was really nervous to meet me because he thinks I'm beautiful and never meet anyone off online. It went well and we have date this Friday for fish. He told me he likes me. All his nervous are gone. He is about hour away from me, which isn't bad. He is very willing to work with that.
As for the other guy not even a word. That's ok because the more I know of the other guy I like.
 
Sounds like things are looking good with the close guy, I'm glad to hear that. Thanks for your updates!
 
Surprising update.

Guess who messaged me today? My ex's so do you still want to do a threesome? I saw this message as I was checking my phone for the time as I slept for work. I didn't respond. Whem I wake up. I get another message does that mean no? I messaged back saying that mean no?.Not right now no. I meet someone who I'm still getting to know but wants to talk everyday and doesn't mind the hour drive. He never checked my messages.

This is no brainier the new guy I've only knew for 14 days has talked to me everyday wishing me good mornings on my mornings and good night's on my nights. We are about to go on date number two tonight after he is done with work. He calls me beautiful, told me he likes me, and I'm a keeper.
 
Sounds like the new guy is definitely a keeper. What a contrast, compared to how your exes act!
 
Be done with the exes. They sound like they just want you for a sex buddy, and you want more than that from your relationships. So tell them no thanks, and that you are moving on.

Sounds like you are enjoying getting to know the new person. Who is more communicative -- so a better potential than the exes. Yet still only a potential, so go slow even while enjoying.

GL!
Galagirl
 
FallenAngelina said:
It's been one week. Everyone is a keeper at one week. :confused:
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GalaGirl said:
Sounds like you are enjoying getting to know the new person. Who is more communicative -- so a better potential than the exes. Yet still only a potential, so go slow even while enjoying.
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I third this. Kevin is always so very optimistic! :D

Protect your heart. You're experiencing NRE. Take everything with a grain of salt.
 
FallenAngelina said:
It's been one week. Everyone is a keeper at one week. :confused:
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Yes been one week of two great dates. But we been talking about 15 day every day. If I don't say good-morning or good night first he says it. He aways all ready knows when I sleep for work because I tell him and he says sweet dreams and message me about the time my alarm goes off to say good morning. He messages me just as much.
 
Gria2004 said:
Yes been one week of two great dates. But we been talking about 15 day every day. If I don't say good-morning or good night first he says it. He aways all ready knows when I sleep for work because I tell him and he says sweet dreams and message me about the time my alarm goes off to say good morning. He messages me just as much.
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That's really sweet and it sounds like it meets your needs, but when evaluating who is a keeper, a little more data taking is prudent.
 
Update and question

Things have been going really well. We been talking everyday since we met. If I don't say something then he does. We been seeing each other for 23 days and two dates because of our schedules. We might see each other this Saturday. Everything is really good.

My question is how do I know what we are with asking him? I think it's to soon to have the define the relationship talk. A friend said to me how the boyfriend. Is he my boyfriend? Can I call him that? I would like that and if he called me his girlfriend. Normally when I date which isn't offten has been poly and everything was talked about so I knew where I stood. My last single relationship was with a girl I knew she was my girlfriend. Last time I dated a single man was 2010. When I called him my boyfriend because we did everything together and he staid at my place I was told he was not. I still saw him because nothing changed just that I couldn't call him my boyfriend or honey.
 
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I personally think you could easily bring it up casually. "Hey, funny thing happened today... My friend referred to you as my boyfriend and i wasn't sure if that's ok or not."

Yes, it's early but if you want to know then find out!
 
AlwaysGrowing said:
I personally think you could easily bring it up casually. "Hey, funny thing happened today... My friend referred to you as my boyfriend and i wasn't sure if that's ok or not."
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Reminds me of the story I like to tell about how, when MrS and I had been hanging out (including overnights) and having sex for a few months a roommate of his said something about his "girlfriend" - I replied "MrS doesn't have a girlfriend, I would know, I am here all the time!" Took me a minute to realize that he was talking about ME! :D (I was very "relationship averse" at the time and would have said that we had been "hooking up"/NSA.)
 
Update help miss him.

Things are still going well. But I would love to see him more but with him live a hour away and working out of town about four or five days a week doesn't make it easy. On top of that I had my schedule moved around do to some female medical stuff so I wasn't off the Friday Saturday last weekend this weekend and next. After that my schedule will go back to normal. Every other weekend. This weekend he's hunting. That's started up. So that makes me sad because I want to see him but can't because of things that made schedule messed up now that I didn't know about when I switched it. Two Fridays from now I'm free. I'm not sure how to go about this. He has been so sweet though this that I don't want to bombard him with I want to see him Friday but if we don't it will be two more weeks. Then it will be four weeks without seeing him. If we don't see each other it will be six. Last weekend he was home all the days I worked but if off I know we would of seen each other. We talk every day and he checked in on me so much when I had my surgery Monday. I don't know.
 
It sounds like you and he should definitely get together two Fridays from now if possible. Ask him if he's free on that day, and explain why that day would be important to you. It is okay to say to him that you wish you and he had more opportunities to see each other, just take care not to say it in a way that suggests he's at fault for the situation. You both have busy lives, and live an hour away from each other.
 
Gria2004 said:
Two Fridays from now I'm free. I'm not sure how to go about this.
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I dunno if you want commentary or just sharing with us, but two Fridays from now is longer than your entire relationship with this new guy. Maybe try to shift into just enjoying the time you do have together and not worry so much about making plans. Early days in a brand new relationship is a good opportunity to gauge how you naturally fit with someone instead of focusing on missed opportunities to see him. If things take all sorts of jockeying and shoehorning and ruminating, then it's not a natural fit and that's really good to know. Think of this as a time of gathering experience with him and evaluating. Let things unfold. Worrying about how and when to see him is a perspective that kinda saps out the joy of what dating is all about. He's a brand new person in your life. Just experience whatever he has to offer.
 
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