Love in the time of Coronavirus
Wow. It’s been a long time since I have updated.
Well, obviously, like the rest of the world, I have been working from home, parenting my kids, trying to help them with distance learning, and generally feeling isolated and worried about the future.
Within all that, I started chatting with someone new from OKC. He seems really lovely and is very interesting to talk to. He seems to mostly be looking for platonic friends and maybe cuddle buddies. He asked me if I wanted to meet up in person and I said no, due to the safer-at-home order, but offered a video chat and we talked for over 2 hours. It was fun. I don’t know what, if anything, will come of it. He has definitely slowed down his messaging once I said I wasn’t willing to meet up in person right now, but that’s fine. I know that a big part of what he is wanting is physical contact (he is demisexual and so he isn’t wanting sex anytime soon, but he is craving cuddling) and so he may be focusing on other potentials right now who might be in a position to offer that. Or maybe our chats haven’t even slowed down and it’s just my imagination.
Anyway, I really like him a lot. Like everyone else I have taken a serious interest in, he is a 98% match with me. He is thoughtful and I enjoy our conversations.
He has a “fluid” relationship with a loving partner. I kinda get the impression that he normally has a very active relationship with them and is looking for something to supplement that — especially now during the quarantine while he is living alone and can’t spend time with them.
It’s hard for me to know exactly what he wants from me, actually. He asked me what I was looking for and I said I wasn’t sure — that I basically just like to be open to possibilities but that I knew I didn’t have time for a commitment of more than once every 3-5 weeks. Then I asked him “what about you?” and he seemed to say he was looking for a mostly-platonic relationship, ideally with someone who could come stay the night for cuddles every 2-4 weeks. So I guess I’m not sure if that’s what he wants *from OKC* or if that’s what he wants *from me* — I hate when people ask what I’m “looking for” because it isn’t a personal question, it’s a general question, and therefore means pretty much nothing to the person that is being asked.
Maybe I need to re-ask and be more specific to myself and ask what he hopes for *from me.*