Fun and Frolic With Long-Term Love

[Bluebird]

So my Damsel in this Dress mystery package was great! It is definitely something I would not have chosen at all, but it is something that I tried on and loved after giving it a shot! Not only did they send me a Vixen corset (as I requested and crossed all of my fingers for) but a luxe bronzy-brown tulip skirt AND a mini bustle skirt! The mini skirt doesn’t match the ordered outfit but it was a bonus add-on. Total was $487 worth of product, that I got for $139. Crazypants!

Anyway, I got a cowprint corset y’all! Yeehaw!



This morning I bought a brown cowboy hat and a teal hat pin from Etsy. I’m excited to wear this someplace - we will see how next year stacks up with trips!

 

[Bluebird]

Happy Thanksgiving!



We celebrated yesterday, at a dinner with my kids and polycule at SirGawain’s.

Going around the table in this pic: DarkKnight, LittleMichigan, LittleMichigan’s partner, MisterMoonbeam, SirGawain, me, BugGirl, BeanBoy

Today I was supposed to go to a dinner at MisterMoonbeam’s parents’ house, but his dad has the flu so we get to be home! This is great because traditionally, on Thanksgiving, we have a pajama day where we order in Chinese and play board games all day. So we are both glad to be able to enjoy that together. Of course we don’t want his dad sick - I hope he gets better soon.

Leftovers are already being eaten - DarkKnight made us breakfast all here at home. Eggs, toast and ham slices from yesterday’s meal. Lunch will be turkey leftovers more than likely, but Chinese for dinner has everyone excited. It just hits different when the rest of the country is eating something else. Lol

 

[Bluebird]

I’m spending today with my son, which is pretty cool. I haven’t had a chance to really connect with him all year, and this is even really just bare bones maintenance. I mean, on Thanksgiving one of the arms of his glasses was broken off, so I’m taking him to an eye doctor appointment today.

My bestie lives across the street from him in Waynesboro, so she’s bringing him into town with her this morning on her way to work. I’m going to meet up with them and bring him to my house. I’ve got a ton of errands to get through today, so it’ll be a working hangout. Lol He says he’s fine with that, so yay!

Yesterday I was so full of anxiety, I am surprised I got anything accomplished. So much going on! I actually was able to calm down in the evening with “attentions and ministrations” by MisterMoonbeam. He gave me a good massage, made sure I ate dinner, and we watched the first episode of 1899 together. Oh, and that was followed by a game of Ticket to Ride on our shared app. By the time DarkKnight got home from practice (it’s Tech Week for A Christmas Story) I was a different person.

More to write, but it’s time to shower. Oi!

 

[Bluebird]

Lots to write about yesterday but no time to do that at the moment.

I’m having a good day today - about to leave for Philadelphia. I’m attending Pax Unplugged this weekend and I can’t wait. I’m wearing some new Stitch Fix stuff today - this dress and boots combo. Hello winter!

Boots with the furrrr


MisterMoonbeam and I are attending Pax Unplugged together. He went pre-Covid alone and he said he had a blast but really thought he would have even more fun with a partner. So I surprised him with 3-day passes and paid halfsies for the hotel. I am stoked to get there. Today we will get our vaccination status approval wristbands (required) and we will be checked in to the hotel. He prepaid our parking which was a fucking ridiculous price.

I’m hoping we bounce on each other like bunnies tonight. I had an absolutely horrific day yesterday and part of it was a disconnect from him. He told me though that he may have secretly bought me something from my private “Good Girl” list on Amazon! Squeeeeee. (All three of my partners have their own list that I add to now and then. I think SirGawain is the only one who ignores it. Lol His loss!)

 

[kittyxuchiha11]

Lots to write about yesterday but no time to do that at the moment.

I’m having a good day today - about to leave for Philadelphia. I’m attending Pax Unplugged this weekend and I can’t wait. I’m wearing some new Stitch Fix stuff today - this dress and boots combo. Hello winter!

Boots with the furrrr

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MisterMoonbeam and I are attending Pax Unplugged together. He went pre-Covid alone and he said he had a blast but really thought he would have even more fun with a partner. So I surprised him with 3-day passes and paid halfsies for the hotel. I am stoked to get there. Today we will get our vaccination status approval wristbands (required) and we will be checked in to the hotel. He prepaid our parking which was a fucking ridiculous price.

I’m hoping we bounce on each other like bunnies tonight. I had an absolutely horrific day yesterday and part of it was a disconnect from him. He told me though that he may have secretly bought me something from my private “Good Girl” list on Amazon! Squeeeeee. (All three of my partners have their own list that I add to now and then. I think SirGawain is the only one who ignores it. Lol His loss!)

Oh man I'm so jealous of you getting to go to Pax! my favourite youtube person who makes dnd content is gonna be there Ginny Di! I don't comment often but I love reading your blog and staying up to date on it all <3 you're like my polyam role model haha

 

[Bluebird]

Oh man I'm so jealous of you getting to go to Pax! my favourite youtube person who makes dnd content is gonna be there Ginny Di! I don't comment often but I love reading your blog and staying up to date on it all <3 you're like my polyam role model haha

I didn’t go to any panels at all. I’m just not into podcasts or YouTube peeps! I had an absolute blast and I would totally recommend going though. Saturday it was super packed and apparently at capacity.

You’re too sweet! I’m definitely not a role model - I fuck up all the time. I do try to be the best me that I can, and I’m my partners’ biggest fan. I think those two things will get you far in relationships.

Pax Unplugged was so much fun. MisterMoonbeam was super sweet to me the entire trip, and we were very connected emotionally and physically.

We had dinner one night with his comet partner and I liked her okay. I was surprised because she is tiny, skinny and a smoker. Not at all what I would consider his “type” but he says that’s the great thing about Poly - he can love lots of different sorts of ladies. Lol He’s not really a fan of the cigarettes, but he only sees her like once a year, when their paths cross for conventions and such.

She’s a fire spinner, which is how he met her. She hugged me and told me thank you for saving her friend. She definitely knew how he struggled after his wife’s passing! It was interesting because while we were talking MisterMoonbeam said that to her as well - that I saved his life. I definitely don’t see our relationship in that light at all so it made me feel a little uncomfortable. I did change his plans for the future, for sure.

Anyway, she was nice but I don’t think we have a ton in common. She considers herself non-monogamous but not polyamorous. She’s not interested in kitchen-table set ups or cohabitating with anyone. She says she enjoys having partners but not entwining in any way. I understand that and really respect that she knows what she wants. I’m cool giving her space and being friendly whenever our own paths cross, if that ever happens again.

Anyway, back to Pax Unplugged - I bought 4 games: Oceans, Mantis Falls, Kites, and Play Rewind Eject. AND we got a Crokinole board!!! That was like, the best thing. MisterMoonbeam & I played for hours on Saturday morning but hesitated buying it because they’re crazy fucking expensive. I’ve always wanted one, but yeah, they cost a lot! We talked about it on and off sporadically through the day and after some free play on another game that night, I looked at him and said, “I really want to buy it.” He started putting away everything and we went and picked one out! We actually got to purchase the one we had played on that morning. Too cool!

We are big dorks because we’re just bopping around now and randomly saying “Crokinole!” at each other. Lol









My shirt in that last picture says “Chaotic Good” because it’s my alignment in D&D, and in real life.

 

[Bluebird]

I also forgot to mention that in my last outfit, MisterMoonbeam called me his “big titty goth girlfriend,” which made me laugh and laugh. I am most definitely not goth but I was wearing all black!

Today has been all go no quit with at least 25 people dropping off Christmas gifts and others coming and picking up. I had all four volunteers here at different times which helped keep me on task and things moving. That said we have a big pile to get through tomorrow!

My bestie came over after work and helped me clear out the extra closet in MisterMoonbeam’s bedroom. It’s been a catch-all for a while and I’ve wanted to straighten it up and fill it with his Ren Faire garb and accessories. So we did that. It was like the least pressing thing I needed to do but it was different and gave me a break from spreadsheets.

 

[Bluebird]

Got my period yesterday. And I have the flu, I think. It’s a lovely combo.

 

[Bluebird]

Ugh I have been sick for a week. Three of my volunteers are sick because of me as well. At least, I assumed I made them ill, but one went to the doctor today and tested positive for Flu A. A different one went earlier in the week and she tested negative for Flu A. So who knows?

Today is the first day that I haven’t slept all day. I am soooo behind on everything I’m doing for the community for Christmas!

 

[Bluebird]

My bestie was over last night and we plowed through with wrapping a bunch of gifts for seniors. I had organized them and got them on the spreadsheet during the day. It’s my plan today to focus on teenager gifts as those don’t need to be wrapped. I really need a second person but I dare not have a regular volunteer here right now.

I got the Blessing Box open and filled on time today but the cold air activated my cough and I’ve been legit sitting still and trying not to hack up a lung for the last twenty minutes.

I had a voice message this morning and I’ve been gifted 10 tickets to A Christmas Carol downtown - a live theater performance at a place we’ve not partnered with before, so I’m excited. I’ve got 8 of them gifted out already!

 

[JaneQSmythe]

...This is great because traditionally, on Thanksgiving, we have a pajama day where we order in Chinese and play board games all day. So we are both glad to be able to enjoy that together. Of course we don’t want his dad sick - I hope he gets better soon.

Leftovers are already being eaten - DarkKnight made us breakfast all here at home. Eggs, toast and ham slices from yesterday’s meal. Lunch will be turkey leftovers more than likely, but Chinese for dinner has everyone excited. It just hits different when the rest of the country is eating something else. Lol

I concur! This year MrS's Mom and StepDad just had the two of us for Thanksgiving (I guess his sister's family had other plans). We did do a jigsaw puzzle as always but had take out Chinese - it was fab (we used to do this in Philly if we didn't go home). We did my family's T-giving on Sunday this year (my sister's do the actual day with the in-laws - our family is SUPER flexible about all of this stuff) - Mom vowed several years ago that she was never, ever, making another turkey - so she does appetizers and relishes, sister #1's family brought ham AND turkey AND sides, sister #2's family brought sides and pies (1/2 of them made by my 12 year old niece - who wants to own a food truck bakery when she grows up), aunts brought salads and other deserts. MrS brought his "Million Dollar Devilled Eggs" as requested. and I brought...nothing except MrS (which is a blessing - for EVERYONE!)

 

[Bluebird]

I’m writing this in the car on the way home from Virginia. I was invited to an all-girls birthday party yesterday evening and it was a blast. I think all ladies need an outlet like that sometimes. MisterMoonbeam went and visited his ex-metamour and spent the time playing video games. We got a hotel room and it was a nice getaway from the chaos that our house is currently.

My current plans have all of the remaining community gifts to be gone by Tuesday night, and to host our “extra” gift giveaway on Wednesday. That will let me put our Christmas tree up on Thursday, and do food shopping on Friday at the Frederick Wegmans. My kids will all gather at my house on Christmas Eve, and then I will go with Sir Gawain on Christmas to be with his family. MisterMoonbeam’s family is gathering next Tuesday. Then he and I and DarkKnight have an Ocean City condo booked until after the New Year. Whoo hoo!

 

[Bluebird]

Merry Christmas!




I have to be entirely truthful - as chaotic and crazy as this past week has been, this was my favorite Christmas in a long while. So much love and support from my family!

We had our family Christmas get together last night, with 11 people in attendance. Right now I am in Baltimore, with SirGawain’s siblings and father. Tomorrow I will be attending a concert in DC with my bestie and her mom - we’re going to see the Trans Siberian Orchestra! Then Tuesday I am in Virginia with MisterMoonbeam to visit with his parents and his brother who will be down from Michigan.

For New Years, I paid for an Ocean City getaway from Thursday to Monday. It’s a 2 bedroom condo owned by a friend, and it was stupid cheap! DarkKnight and MisterMoonbeam are going with me. I’m excited to get away and do nothing for a bit!

 

[Bluebird]

My period is back so I know that’s affecting me this morning. I just posted a whole thing to Facebook. Here’s the copy/paste:

I was having a morning pee when I looked over and saw a scale. This was in DarkKnight’s bathroom, and I had never used this particular one, but as I was sitting there, I decided I’d give it a try. It’s been since the summer since I weighed myself, and lots of people had told me I look smaller, etc so I figured I’d pop on and see what was up.

You guys! WTF.

When I had COVID this summer I lost 5 pounds. I was at 215. My goal weight where I feel curvy and cute at 5’9” is when I weigh 210. At that number I don’t care that the doctor says I’m obese. When I go lower than 210 I don’t like my boobs or my hips and I feel like a fake person. It’s like, a whole real thing. It’s a body dismorphia fixation and I start to hyper focus on my ankles. I’m weird. Anyway.

Guys, that scale said 192! I’m having an existential crisis right now. Like, I knew that none of my pants were fitting and my shirts seemed bigger but this seems way way low. How did I lose 20+ pounds and not notice? Like, it’s a different scale and all, but 23 pounds difference? What?

I’m upstairs drinking my chai now and trying not to cry. I don’t even know what to do. Should I go to the store this morning and try on smaller clothes and see where I’m at? Go to Walmart and weigh myself on a different scale and hope it shows that this particular one was wrong?

I honestly don’t know what to do. I’m freaking out. I’m sure most people reading this will be like, “oh lucky you, wish I could lose weight like that.” This isn’t good for me. I am freaking out. My parts aren’t right! Seriously, I’m scared to go weigh myself elsewhere because what if it shows this is real? I will legit cry in public. Can someone bring me one that will show I’m 210 and okay?



DarkKnight just gave me a hug. I’m not going to go weigh myself. I’m just going to ignore this. I’m okay. I’m okay. I’ve gotta get ready to go to Virginia. There’s laundry to do. I’m going to wear leggings. Please no one look at my ankles.

 

[Magdlyn]

Was that the only scale in the house? Do you usually just get weighed at the doctor once a year, or what? I didn't know Walmart had a scale lol

I'm sorry you're freaking out about your ankles.

 

[Bluebird]

Was that the only scale in the house? Do you usually just get weighed at the doctor once a year, or what? I didn't know Walmart had a scale lol

I'm sorry you're freaking out about your ankles.

Yes, Walmart sells scales. Lol It is currently the only one in the house. Actually, DarkKnight was annoyed that I used it because it apparently sends all of the info on it to the cloud someplace and he’s been using to track his own weight loss and now his numbers will show an insane dip. Lol

There used to be another scale here but I have no idea where or when it disappeared.

I’m calmer now but I am still out of sorts a bit.

 

[Magdlyn]

Yes, Walmart sells scales. Lol It is currently the only one in the house. Actually, DarkKnight was annoyed that I used it because it apparently sends all of the info on it to the cloud someplace and he’s been using to track his own weight loss and now his numbers will show an insane dip. Lol

There used to be another scale here but I have no idea where or when it disappeared.

I’m calmer now but I am still out of sorts a bit.

Oh, I didn't understand. I thought there was "a scale" at Walmart like drug stores used to have blood pressure monitors. I get it now. It's odd you lost weight so quickly without noticing. Maybe it's just because you're so busy with your job and all the hiking, etc. But sometimes a sudden weight loss can indicate thyroid trouble. Might want to get checked out.

 

[Bluebird]

It’s not really sudden though - the last time I weighed myself was July. So 23 pounds since then is a steady loss, and it makes sense since we’ve been doing portion control by buying Hello Fresh every week. That said, I have always had low thyroid, and my 23 & Me genetic health testing said I had a high probability of Hashimoto’s. (It also said some things that I am absolutely following up on already!)



I’m still fat, but I’ve definitely gone down a size. This is me yesterday.

I’m about to jump in the shower - I’m heading off for 5 days in Ocean City at a friend’s condo. I can’t think of a better way to ring in the New Year than snuggled up at the beach surrounded by board games! Here’s what we’re bringing!



Crokinole too - and a 1000-piece mystery maze puzzle! The plan is for DarkKnight, MisterMoonbeam & I to finish up our Gloomhaven: Jaws of the Lion game this week, so we can move on to actual Gloomhaven this year! We also have I think 2 more cases to complete in Detective. MisterMoonbeam and I got all of our board games listed on a spreadsheet last night - we own 263 - and we are going to figure out and schedule game nights so we can actually get some of them to the table in the upcoming months. We want to start having drop-in times so we can get them played!



BugGirl got me a game for Christmas (King of New York) but I already owned it, so I took it back and swapped it for Ark Nova! I hope the table at the condo is big enough to accommodate it. Lol

 

[Bluebird]

Happy New Year!



Spending the holiday in Ocean City has been a real good time - we’ve spent the time relaxing and just being together.

Wearing black and comfy leggings the last 3 days, I’ve really been able to notice the weight loss. Like, wow!

 

[Bluebird]

I just wanna say both of my nesting partners were ON POINT with the deep dicking this weekend. I don’t know why my life can’t be like this all the time.