I was very busy and he decided that I said no even before I could respond. He decided to be rude and disrespectful to me.
Sorry you had to deal with that. Asking if you are up for FWB is fine.
Acting like a jerk at you when you don't reply right away or outright decline is not.
It's like they ask "Hey, wassup?" and if you aren't
instantly there to text them back? They get all "Fine, then, you stuck up bitch!"
It was more of the tone of the message, like he assumed that ALL poly relationships are just free-for-all sex and that he was hoping to take advantage of that with me.
I'm not sure if men get that experience the same... but I've had that experience as woman.
There's a reason why that one button/t-shirt/meme exists -- "Bi, poly, and I still won't sleep with you." Or variations of it.
Because so many dudes hear a woman is poly and then think it must mean she's easy and/or up for anything any time.
One time a dude asked me since I was sleeping with X, why wouldn't I sleep with him? Like mad and offended that I wouldn't sleep with him.
Um... because *** I *** get to pick where my body goes and how I choose to share it or not. He's not entitled to sex from me just cuz. I'm not a candy bar everyone just gets a bite of whenever they want. Jeez.
Your dude sounded weird. Call it bullet dodged. Try your best to brush it off and move on.
GG