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RoamingEnigma74

RoamingEnigma74

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I'm always bad at these things but here it goes. I am 47 and a single mom.

I am here because recently I have been long distance dating someone. He is funny, sweet, and caring and all kinds of good things. He is also poly which is something I never considered doing. I have so much baggage and some trauma in my past that is making this really really hard. We have amazing communication. I could not ask for a more understanding person. He knows about my trauma and is 100% there for me.

I don't know how much I should go into things here since this is just an introduction. I guess that is all. Have I mentioned that I'm not good at these things lol
 
Welcome. Baggage- we all have some. Discuss what you are comfortable with. Don’t be pushed beyond that. This is a great group that does care. Jump in and enjoy.
 
Thank you. I am fortunate that the guy I'm with is very understanding and does everything he can to help me handle things. I am trying but it is hard. He is worth it though so I hope I can get over the hurt I usually feel and adjust to a new way of thinking.
 
Hello and Welcome!

You're doing just fine in the Introducing Yourself department. You can feel free to go as deep as you want into things here - we tend to be a pretty loquatious lot, so long posts are not generally a problem - occasionally people run up against the 10,000 word limit per post and have to do a part 2. (If you are going to be composing a really long post, you may want to type it up in a Word document and then copy and paste so you don't lose it.) That being said, this IS the Introductions section - if you want a place to tell your story in as many posts as you need without a lot of interuptions, then you may want to start a thread in our Lifestories and Blogs forum. (Unsolicited commentary is discouraged there - so if you want feedback then one of the other forums might be appropriate).

Retired is correct - we all have baggage. Whether that is trauma, abuse, rape, religious conditioning or even just unhealthy assumptions based on our family, culture, and personal history - there is always something to work at. (As I tell my clients, there is nobody's life that is so perfect that they wouldn't benefit from having a counselor, therapist, or trusted confidante to talk to. If they think that their life is that perfect, then then really ought to be talking to someone! - Tounge in Cheek, but you get the point.)

I hope that you enjoy your time here - read, learn, share, teach...to whatever degree you desire to participate.

JaneQ

(Kevin will be by shortly, I am sure, to share a good list of resources and places to start.)
 
JaneQSmythe said:
Hello and Welcome!

You're doing just fine in the Introducing Yourself department. You can feel free to go as deep as you want into things here - we tend to be a pretty loquatious lot, so long posts are not generally a problem - occasionally people run up against the 10,000 word limit per post and have to do a part 2. (If you are going to be composing a really long post, you may want to type it up in a Word document and then copy and paste so you don't lose it.) That being said, this IS the Introductions section - if you want a place to tell your story in as many posts as you need without a lot of interuptions, then you may want to start a thread in our Lifestories and Blogs forum. (Unsolicited commentary is discouraged there - so if you want feedback then one of the other forums might be appropriate).

Retired is correct - we all have baggage. Whether that is trauma, abuse, rape, religious conditioning or even just unhealthy assumptions based on our family, culture, and personal history - there is always something to work at. (As I tell my clients, there is nobody's life that is so perfect that they wouldn't benefit from having a counselor, therapist, or trusted confidante to talk to. If they think that their life is that perfect, then then really ought to be talking to someone! - Tounge in Cheek, but you get the point.)

I hope that you enjoy your time here - read, learn, share, teach...to whatever degree you desire to participate.

JaneQ

(Kevin will be by shortly, I am sure, to share a good list of resources and places to start.)
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Thank you. I've been trying to find a place to find people who might be able to let me know about the beginning stages of stepping into the poly life. I will make sure to give more information when I can manage to get it formed into something that will make sense :)
 
Greetings RoamingEnigma74,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Polyamory is a really hard thing to get into, it is not accepted by the vast majority, so you kind of have to figure it out on your own. It's good that the guy you're dating is so supportive, but you have quite a bit of baggage to unpack, and ultimately that's something only you can do.

Here's some links/resources that might help you:
Let us know if you have any questions.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

Notes:

There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!

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If you have any questions about the board itself, please private-message a mod and they'll do their best to help.

Welcome aboard!
 
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