I'm new here so ill be quick.
I've always told my wife she could date other people all I want is honesty about who they are and how they feel about each other which to me seem like reasonable requests but it seems like whenever I try to discuss these things it upsets her and now it seems as though she has multiple partners but keeps telling me its just this one we will call a but then when I pickup her phone to look at some pics our kid sent her there are messages from a and another person b at the top of her messages a is telling how she loves her and to have a good night then there's b right below asking her to come play. So for me I guess my real question is 2 fold 1st do I bring it up or just let it go. And if I should bring it up how do I go about it without coming across as accusatory because I'm fine with her dating seeing fucking who ever she wants I just want her to be honest with me about it.
I've always told my wife she could date other people all I want is honesty about who they are and how they feel about each other which to me seem like reasonable requests but it seems like whenever I try to discuss these things it upsets her and now it seems as though she has multiple partners but keeps telling me its just this one we will call a but then when I pickup her phone to look at some pics our kid sent her there are messages from a and another person b at the top of her messages a is telling how she loves her and to have a good night then there's b right below asking her to come play. So for me I guess my real question is 2 fold 1st do I bring it up or just let it go. And if I should bring it up how do I go about it without coming across as accusatory because I'm fine with her dating seeing fucking who ever she wants I just want her to be honest with me about it.