The very LAST thing I'd want to convey is coming across like a narcissist. It's not all about me. This conversation should be more about a mutual understanding, and that she will be loved, cared for, and not abandoned! But, this isn't all about her. She has no interest in polyamory. She has no interest in sharing on an emotional level. Swinging - yes, that was fun - like a rollercoaster. It was get on, have fun, go home with your husband. But THIS...feelings, emotion, love - this is different. She seems incapable of sharing at that level because it comes across as threatening to her post-Catholic, monogamy infused surroundings that she was brought up on.
As for this chap, I am far more jaded about monogamy despite being raised in a loving, non-divorced, non-cheating (that I am aware of anyway) set of parents. It was Leave it to Beaver, only 30 years later. The divorce rate, the friends (and family) who have cheated on their spouses, the staying together for the kids - all that BS has opened my eyes to things like polyamory. But more than that, I feel this need to be in an emotional relationship with more than one. Why? No fawking idea - but it's there, and I can't ignore it. I'm 100% sure there is some deep-seeded psychology behind "why" that I probably could understand if given the tools. But for now, I just know that it's there.
All of that rambling aside, I'd like to talk with my wife about polyamory. I have read the various posts about the mechanics of this, and I think that I could have a gentle conversation about it. My question to you all is this: what do I say when she flat out rejects the idea? As mentioned earlier, I can't ignore it. On the flip side, I love my wife and have zero thoughts of considering divorce.
I'd appreciate your insight, wisdom, or advice.
Cheers!
As for this chap, I am far more jaded about monogamy despite being raised in a loving, non-divorced, non-cheating (that I am aware of anyway) set of parents. It was Leave it to Beaver, only 30 years later. The divorce rate, the friends (and family) who have cheated on their spouses, the staying together for the kids - all that BS has opened my eyes to things like polyamory. But more than that, I feel this need to be in an emotional relationship with more than one. Why? No fawking idea - but it's there, and I can't ignore it. I'm 100% sure there is some deep-seeded psychology behind "why" that I probably could understand if given the tools. But for now, I just know that it's there.
All of that rambling aside, I'd like to talk with my wife about polyamory. I have read the various posts about the mechanics of this, and I think that I could have a gentle conversation about it. My question to you all is this: what do I say when she flat out rejects the idea? As mentioned earlier, I can't ignore it. On the flip side, I love my wife and have zero thoughts of considering divorce.
I'd appreciate your insight, wisdom, or advice.
Cheers!