I'm in over my head
- Thread starter Freetime
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Or both!
I have given no thought to exploring polyamory other than as a monogamous partner involved in a poly relationship. Yet I now find myself having to look at this wee concept in detail, and from an angle I would not have considered when this journey started.
The details will remain with me, as is fitting, but I now find myself with a wife and two girlfriends who all know each other. I should probably be somewhat concerned, but truthfully I'm just going to enjoy the company and be open to what this may look like from here on in.
Complicated, fun, interesting and filled with awesome people, that's my world right now.
So to Tess, Tilly, and FHC, thank you. I'm pretty sure the three of you are about to make my life a very different experience.
The details will remain with me, as is fitting, but I now find myself with a wife and two girlfriends who all know each other. I should probably be somewhat concerned, but truthfully I'm just going to enjoy the company and be open to what this may look like from here on in.
Complicated, fun, interesting and filled with awesome people, that's my world right now.
So to Tess, Tilly, and FHC, thank you. I'm pretty sure the three of you are about to make my life a very different experience.
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Feedhercandy
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Duck to water?
SpiritGirl
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I believe you, Freetime. Thousands wouldn't, but I do.
Your gfs are lovely women and I am happy they are in our lives.
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SNeacail
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This sounds like a good plan to me.
I'm convinced that good things can come our way just because we open our mind to new options. Enjoy!
@#$%^&*!!11!! So, years of self-analysis and soul-searching and online prowling, and apparently the secret to finding a poly gf is to sit back and be mono! WTF dude. You couldn't have told me this in 2007?
On a more serious note...
You, my dear, were the one who challenged my beliefs and my stance in this wee adventure, so you tell me. See you Wednesday.
This is all your fault. And yes, they are indeed lovely, as are you, my dear. Love ya, baby.
Me too! I have no idea where this going, only that my place in this is to bring love, fun and kindness. Looks like fun, really.
I've had all the internal drama I need for a lifetime. Time for me to just enjoy the people and experiences they bring to me. May I do the same for them.
Mono is its own sexy!
Apparently I'm not quite the hardcase I thought I was. Mono or poly, it's still only about love, regardless of how we label it. You folks taught me that.
Be well, everyone,
Freetime
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IndieSolo
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Damn, I should have rearranged my schedule when you were here, and gotten together with you. Who knows what might've happened?!
A short note to my wife, I love you.
My darling Tess, how naive of me to think that you wouldn't be bothered by my time with another. How could you not? Because you were first to the experience, I assumed you prepared. How foolish of me. I'm sorry, baby.
I love you, Tess. I'm not going anywhere, sweetheart. I'm right here.
Redpepper reminded me months ago that my role in this, in part, is to give comfort, regardless of cause or reason. And although I wasn't sure of that then, I am certain of it now.
Radical honesty and radical acceptance. Interesting.
My darling Tess, how naive of me to think that you wouldn't be bothered by my time with another. How could you not? Because you were first to the experience, I assumed you prepared. How foolish of me. I'm sorry, baby.
I love you, Tess. I'm not going anywhere, sweetheart. I'm right here.
Redpepper reminded me months ago that my role in this, in part, is to give comfort, regardless of cause or reason. And although I wasn't sure of that then, I am certain of it now.
Radical honesty and radical acceptance. Interesting.
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TruckerPete
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Freetime, prepare to meet a metric fucktonne of NRE.
Be careful!
Be careful!
redpepper
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Yes, be careful. It's sometimes smoke and mirrors until someone gets hurt, and then all is revealed.
Wishing you the best, however.
Remember to go slow and think one step ahead, if you can.
Yeah, whatever, I can hear you now. NRE, here we come... lalala... Not listening. I know. *tease*
Wishing you the best, however.
Remember to go slow and think one step ahead, if you can.
Yeah, whatever, I can hear you now. NRE, here we come... lalala... Not listening. I know. *tease*
detritus
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I made this same mistaken assumption. We're working through it, and I'm sure you and Tess can, too.
Well shit fire and save matches, fuck a duck and see what hatches!
You alway make me smile.
Yes, indeed. It's like a train engine at or above red line, and growing.
Be careful. It's sometimes smoke and mirrors until someone gets hurt, and then all is revealed.
Wishing you the best, however.
Remember to go slow and think one step ahead, if you can.
Yeah, whatever. NRE, here we come.... lalala... not listening. I know *tease*
Oh no, dear RP, on this I am indeed listening. As much as I'm enjoying things on this side of the discussion, I will not do so at another's expense. I will slow things down if I start to see my actions causing problems. These relationships are fragile and new. Only attention, desire and truth will work. I absolutely admire these women. I am both startled and touched by their friendships. I also get that things may not last. Life's like that. But while I'm here, I'll endeavor to be a decent loving human being.
Thanks, I appreciate the support and encouragement. We cleared this up immediately last night. Once Tess was able to articulate the issue, we spent time together doing the things you do when this comes up. The only way I know how to make this work is to deal immediately and honestly with the challenges as they arrive.
Be well, everyone,
Freetime
This thread has morphed into
a different story, and as such, I'll hanging be out here:
http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=10738
I'll still check in here, as this is my story, and all of the lessons that have made these past 90 days one of the best personal growth experiences of my life.
a different story, and as such, I'll hanging be out here:
http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=10738
I'll still check in here, as this is my story, and all of the lessons that have made these past 90 days one of the best personal growth experiences of my life.
PussNBoots
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I am fascinated by this thread!
I must admit I have been following this story with some interest! I gotta be honest--while I don't watch soap operas, checking in on this thread as a lurker was kinda the equivalent for me! I wish you well in your endeavors.
And if you have any really hot delicious sex, be sure and mention it!
On a more serious note, I have been curious what the experience of poly is like, and this thread has been a fascinating read. There were some good pieces of wisdom that I want to remember if ever I should get into a polyamorous relationship.
I must admit I have been following this story with some interest! I gotta be honest--while I don't watch soap operas, checking in on this thread as a lurker was kinda the equivalent for me!
I wish you well in your endeavors.And if you have any really hot delicious sex, be sure and mention it!
On a more serious note, I have been curious what the experience of poly is like, and this thread has been a fascinating read. There were some good pieces of wisdom that I want to remember if ever I should get into a polyamorous relationship.
TruckerPete
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I must admit I have been following this story with some interest! I gotta be honest--while I don't watch soap operas, checking in on this thread as a lurker was kinda the equivalent for me!
Just remember that unlike a soap opera, real people are attached to this.