Hmm... Well, I have put a lot of thought into this, and my ideal relationship, and by association my ideal future, is something that is constantly evolving as I meet new people and discover new things about myself and the world around me. Ten or so years ago, I wanted to live in a town with a boyfriend and three dogs... Now it couldn't be much more different.
I'd quite like to live in the countryside for instance, now, but within twenty minutes drive of a town at least. I still want the dogs, and some cats. My career plan has a great influence on all of this because I want to be a writer, which means most of my time will be spent at home.
I wouldn't expect my partners to do the same, in fact I'd quite like partners who worked, and I'd love to cook them something special and light a few candles for when they get home. Although I'd have to ensure they all did a share of the housework, so maybe another one who only had a part time job would be nice.
I'd like two or three partners of each gender, it sounds greedy, but it's what I'm comfortable with.
Maybe I'm a little weird, but it's a dream life for me...
I agree with this. I am involved with great people, and I enjoy the relationships I have with them. Even though it can be fun to think about "ideals", I feel it puts too much focus on the relationship structure or way of living, which really only come long after the people involved, and what fits us in different situations.Better than any ideal relationships, I have actual relationships. These must be perfect, because they are real, actual.
However, some sort of commune made up of separate houses but all on the same land....now that appeals to me. (Did I just seeing everyone nodding in agreement?) I imagine there being a large central house, where everyone could mingle, share resources, host parties....but when thing got too much, retire back to your own little cottage, your own private sanctuary.
No way, not me!However, some sort of commune made up of separate houses but all on the same land....now that appeals to me. (Did I just seeing everyone nodding in agreement?)
I like my solitary life, I think. If, however, I were ever to be attracted to a communal way of living, this makes the most sense. I once lived for two months in a very nice retreat center set up pretty much like this in New Zealand (I was there for a specific purpose and time frame). It did afford people a certain amount of privacy. I have read articles about communes like this, mostly in Scandinavian countries, I believe.I imagine there being a large central house, where everyone could mingle, share resources, host parties....but when thing got too much, retire back to your own little cottage, your own private sanctuary.
VanillaIce and I are looking for an apartment together that would be closer to where Moonlightrunner and Windflower live. So the logistic side of things is looking up .
What about Flattie? Would she be moving with you?
I find my dreams revolve around being in love with two men who care for each other as much as they care for me.