I am an early 50’s straight male. I live in the Pacific Northwest, roughly an hour from Seattle.
I’m here looking for clarification or understanding of the lifestyle.
I have spent time reading the threads on the forums and to me it seems like both sides of the couple are involved with other people.
My question is, is there ever a time where one person of the couple does not or chooses not to or is requested not to get involved with other people.
Case in point, I was once married to a woman 20 years ago and she had mentioned before we were married that her and her former husband had swapped with another couple a couple times a month.
After we were married she asked me about sharing her with another guy sexually. I was totally naïve to anything about this idea and we had long conversations about it. Her requests were that I was not to get involved with other women as she did not want to share me. I was open minded enough to try it and honestly we had a lot of fun even though I was never involved with them when they were together.
Short story long, if I can paint a picture, I want the fairy tale. Good Lawd, this is hard to describe. I just want to be with one woman. I want the connection, communication and bond as a strong couple. Honesty, respect and loyalty and the excitement of building a future together.
But, on the flip side of it, I want to find a woman who wants to see other people just to hang out, dinner, movies, or even intimacy or whatever else.
Some days I think I am out of my flipping mind and now after reading the forum, it makes me wonder if this is the Poly lifestyle also or is it something else. I have no friends I can talk with about this idea so I am trying to fill in the blanks the best I can.
I’m here looking for clarification or understanding of the lifestyle.
I have spent time reading the threads on the forums and to me it seems like both sides of the couple are involved with other people.
My question is, is there ever a time where one person of the couple does not or chooses not to or is requested not to get involved with other people.
Case in point, I was once married to a woman 20 years ago and she had mentioned before we were married that her and her former husband had swapped with another couple a couple times a month.
After we were married she asked me about sharing her with another guy sexually. I was totally naïve to anything about this idea and we had long conversations about it. Her requests were that I was not to get involved with other women as she did not want to share me. I was open minded enough to try it and honestly we had a lot of fun even though I was never involved with them when they were together.
Short story long, if I can paint a picture, I want the fairy tale. Good Lawd, this is hard to describe. I just want to be with one woman. I want the connection, communication and bond as a strong couple. Honesty, respect and loyalty and the excitement of building a future together.
But, on the flip side of it, I want to find a woman who wants to see other people just to hang out, dinner, movies, or even intimacy or whatever else.
Some days I think I am out of my flipping mind and now after reading the forum, it makes me wonder if this is the Poly lifestyle also or is it something else. I have no friends I can talk with about this idea so I am trying to fill in the blanks the best I can.