bearpancakes
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I’m (m) am the mono in my marriage and my wife (f) is Poly and currently seeing a guy who she says is a FWB.
He seems nice and all but some things are jumping out. First he identified as a Dom and they are into impact play. My wife is also Dom so there’s a sexual power struggle with them.
The other day he reached out to me because my wife and his other partner were hanging out and not answering their phone. He reached out to me to see if I knew where they were, which in and of itself isn’t the issue, but he never uses my wife’s name when he’s talking time, he always calls her “your wife”
Now I notice he likes to buy her lunch and stuff (Uber eat gift cards) but he only does it when my wife and I are home together.
So imagine you’re a guy who’s wife is a FWB to another guy and when you’re both at home together this guy buys her lunch.
Am I wrong for feeling like that’s a passive alpha male move?
He seems nice and all but some things are jumping out. First he identified as a Dom and they are into impact play. My wife is also Dom so there’s a sexual power struggle with them.
The other day he reached out to me because my wife and his other partner were hanging out and not answering their phone. He reached out to me to see if I knew where they were, which in and of itself isn’t the issue, but he never uses my wife’s name when he’s talking time, he always calls her “your wife”
Now I notice he likes to buy her lunch and stuff (Uber eat gift cards) but he only does it when my wife and I are home together.
So imagine you’re a guy who’s wife is a FWB to another guy and when you’re both at home together this guy buys her lunch.
Am I wrong for feeling like that’s a passive alpha male move?
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