mf1438
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I'm a 68 year old African American male married 28 years. I'm stuck in a sexless marriage. We are both retired empty nesters. She lost all interest in sex but I'm not ready to hang up my tennis shoes yet. Sex keeps me vibrant and alive. It gives me an intimate connection with another human being
I would like to pursue a shame and guilt free LDR sexual relationship while staying within my moral boundaries.
Masturbation is not a sin and I have the ultimate say as to what is acceptable to me when engaging in solo sex. However, I like mutual masturbation and to some this crosses moral boundaries and is considered cheating.
What are my moral boundaries? Since I'm married, I'm told by many that it does not matter what I want. What matters is what my wife wants. She is the judge, jury and executioner. She accused me of cheating when I told her that I was sexting with someone online. I started this activity when she started refusing me sex years ago.
I have to live within her moral boundaries because we are equally yoked but at the same time I WANT TO BE FREE.
So I'm hoping that ethical non-monogamy can give me a structure, rules that I can work within. Some things she already agreed to, but anything that involves interaction, even though it is just online, she considers cheating.
No, I do not want a divorce.
No, I don't want to give up sex for the rest of my life. .
No, I do not want to be labeled a cheat. Infidelity and adultery are painful words for me to hear associated with me. I am a man committed to reclaiming my integrity.
Is there any way outside of total abstinence to escape the moral shackles of a sexless marriage?
Does anybody here have any experience negotiating ENM consent agreements?
I would like to pursue a shame and guilt free LDR sexual relationship while staying within my moral boundaries.
Masturbation is not a sin and I have the ultimate say as to what is acceptable to me when engaging in solo sex. However, I like mutual masturbation and to some this crosses moral boundaries and is considered cheating.
What are my moral boundaries? Since I'm married, I'm told by many that it does not matter what I want. What matters is what my wife wants. She is the judge, jury and executioner. She accused me of cheating when I told her that I was sexting with someone online. I started this activity when she started refusing me sex years ago.
I have to live within her moral boundaries because we are equally yoked but at the same time I WANT TO BE FREE.
So I'm hoping that ethical non-monogamy can give me a structure, rules that I can work within. Some things she already agreed to, but anything that involves interaction, even though it is just online, she considers cheating.
No, I do not want a divorce.
No, I don't want to give up sex for the rest of my life. .
No, I do not want to be labeled a cheat. Infidelity and adultery are painful words for me to hear associated with me. I am a man committed to reclaiming my integrity.
Is there any way outside of total abstinence to escape the moral shackles of a sexless marriage?
Does anybody here have any experience negotiating ENM consent agreements?