I guess the point is they just want people to pay now and the free tier seems to have been stripped of any utility, it's just there as a sort of honey trap. It's weird though because their help still says if you mutually like each other it should open up messaging but this isn't happening, maybe there are bugs?
I don't think I'm well suited to poly, it seems to be you need to be pretty secure in yourself to cope with it and to have good internalised self esteem, I don't have either of those things - at least not particularly solidly.
I know there are issues going back to childhood that make me this way, I had to be like a carer for both my parents at various points while they went through significant mental and physical health problems, including as a child as well as more recently with my father, but poly seems to expose all my weaknesses and fears and lay them out in front of me. I need to know how to cope with this.
Of course, how I wish I could. I have had years of therapy, in my day to day life I don't go there and have a huge range of defence mechanisms and coping strategies. Some this stuff goes back to very early though, and I think relationship insecurity is probably the one thing that takes me back there, in everyday life I have to fight that C-PTSD sense of things being on the edge of falling apart all the time and I can when I'm doing things I feel confident in (like my job most of the time) but in insecure relationships I feel like I'm back being the small scared child, it's a very physical, visceral feeling that isn't entirely under conscious control.You could cope by NOT going there again. It really seemed to drain you last time your were posting.
So it might be time to say "I love you a lot. But NO. Not even for you am I going to do open/poly stuff that hurts me