Hi I've been married 10 years, others I dated in the past were manaogamish relationships fantasized about others while making love.
We dated a short time before marriage and at the time things had real potential sexually, I was happy not pushing things but slowly working toward something better. Sex everyday later after marriage and work stress for my partner reduced it to once a month. I greatly love my partner but my sex drive is a daily need so instead of cheating I turn to porn. I also turned to Fetlife as a way to read and educate myself. I feel I could easily have a separate play partner to fill in the void when my partner is not interested or too tired. I think it would be great to go to a sex club and just watch with an open mind but feel my vanilla partner would find this earth shattering to know I'm ok with swinging or into poly. I'd be ok if we both had play partners but again my partner is managamous, straight and I'm learning I'm really not monogamous, or so I believe. I'd be happy exploring and experiencing more and I'm getting older but not ready to toss in the towel and get by with ok sex that will never stretch our limits of excitement. There is so much yet to explore, learn and enjoy.
I think and masterbate daily, to group and threesomes. I need that release to get started with my day.
Communication has always been very good except our sex life and have stressed that is the part that makes me feel married and connected.
A delicate matter trying to consider my partners stress, lack of interest due to overweight and getting older. Trying to put it in a way without insulting or causing an apocalypse by mentioning poly or swinging.
We grow up loving two main people, mom and pop then have sisters and brothers and best friends so why not be Poly ?
I look at some friends that we come in contact with and think it would be nice to give the gift of pleasuring each other openly in a friendly fwb way and that we could both enjoy others.
I'm just wondering if there is a way to repair and inspire our intimacy and get to the next level ? or what others have to say?
We dated a short time before marriage and at the time things had real potential sexually, I was happy not pushing things but slowly working toward something better. Sex everyday later after marriage and work stress for my partner reduced it to once a month. I greatly love my partner but my sex drive is a daily need so instead of cheating I turn to porn. I also turned to Fetlife as a way to read and educate myself. I feel I could easily have a separate play partner to fill in the void when my partner is not interested or too tired. I think it would be great to go to a sex club and just watch with an open mind but feel my vanilla partner would find this earth shattering to know I'm ok with swinging or into poly. I'd be ok if we both had play partners but again my partner is managamous, straight and I'm learning I'm really not monogamous, or so I believe. I'd be happy exploring and experiencing more and I'm getting older but not ready to toss in the towel and get by with ok sex that will never stretch our limits of excitement. There is so much yet to explore, learn and enjoy.
I think and masterbate daily, to group and threesomes. I need that release to get started with my day.
Communication has always been very good except our sex life and have stressed that is the part that makes me feel married and connected.
A delicate matter trying to consider my partners stress, lack of interest due to overweight and getting older. Trying to put it in a way without insulting or causing an apocalypse by mentioning poly or swinging.
We grow up loving two main people, mom and pop then have sisters and brothers and best friends so why not be Poly ?
I look at some friends that we come in contact with and think it would be nice to give the gift of pleasuring each other openly in a friendly fwb way and that we could both enjoy others.
I'm just wondering if there is a way to repair and inspire our intimacy and get to the next level ? or what others have to say?