Honestly GS...read my stuff and things should become clear.
I would rather not make myself known in terms with my involvement so far. Does that make sense....?
This sounds like a good time to come by Imaginary Illusions International Lube Emporium and stock up on some LUBE!Don't get me mad Mono.... I'm pre-menstrual and a redhead, I'll come down on your ass! grrrr
We happen to be really out there in the community and that community seems to be wanting to fuck everyone... it's just the nature of it it seems. Those who are into that need to be out there so that they can get together with others. When you are in a more closed relationship structure, as we are, then just by proxy there is not the need to be out there in the poly world.
Yes, I agree Ceoli. I think I put myself into that same category - it's nice to hang out with folks who "get it" when it comes to my relationship style - I don't have to explain or hide or feel ashamed when I sit there with my two loves. I am most definitely poly-saturated right now, so the idea of using it as a dating pool is far from my mind. I have met many new friends through this - people who I wouldn't ever have met if I hadn't had the local groups to which I have belonged.That might be a characteristic of your community, but I've noticed and known lots of people who are "out there" and visible in the poly world because they feel the need to be connected to a community or they feel a need to create and care for such communities, not necessarily out of a need broaden their hook up pool. I've also noticed that this doesn't correlate to whether they are in a more open or closed relationship structure. It just has to do with what the community means to them, regardless of their relationship structures.
So here we go... it seems that this up coming sex party has opened up a lot of discussion in our poly group. It seems that it may just be helping a lot of people define what it is that they want from their relationships with others in the community.
So are you saying that in your particular group there's a big emphasis on sex and maybe less on some of the bigger picture topics of poly living or just general sharing of community ?
Yes I am saying that there does seem to be a big emphasis on sex and who to get with right now in my community. Thanks for asking for the clarification and allowing me to set the record straight.
There are community members who have similar approaches to poly as Redpepper and Polynerdist. The focus in these relationships is relationships. It just happens that some of the most visible members of our community are in different places with respect to their approach to poly and have different objectives than us.
I don't see a great schism impending but there may be some natural change occurring. I would feel the same amount of "separation" if there was a group of them that wanted to play baseball...I have zero time for it and so wouldn't join...and watching them would bore me senseless.
After the game I'm sure we could all get together for coffee, a beer and some chat though. Sexuality is only one aspect of our community and after all...poly is not all about sex right