Hi there, I have been in a relationship with a polyamorous partner for the last 18 months. We have an incredibe relationship. I have been open to polyamory in theory. However - in practice I simply do not want to be sexually intimate with anyone else but him at this point. This is simply what has unfolded fo me, and I have been honest with him from the start of our relationship, that I am not necessarily committed to polyamory. I guess that ambiamorous better describes me. I flow with what each relationship is asking for. My partner was committed to polyamory. He has a nesting partner, and does not practice hierarchy. During our relationship he decided to explire polyfidelity - and committed to the two of us. This came from his own desire and not from pressure. Prior to that he had many and frequent relationships with other women. Then 4 months ago, he anounced that he had had a strong realisation that he did not want to be sexual with anyone else but myself. Including his nesting partner. One part of me loved this, and another part of me has really really struggled, as I was in the zone of finding my way with polyamory, and suddenly he has changed the landscape profoundly and I am at sea and not sure what the hell to make of it. 4 months along and he says he cannot imagine that he is going to change on this issue - he is still only wanting to be sexually intimate with myself. He still lives with his nesting partner, and describes the relationship as mildly romantic, affectionate and in partnership. Noone else knows that they are no longer sexual - as requested by her. And I have honoured that need for privacy. Since this took place, the nesting partner has had understandably strong and jealous feelings. I no longer feel welcome in my partners home. Which also really hurts. However, i am not accepted in this mononormative bloody culture that we are in as anything more than the 'other woman'. and that hurts more than ever tbh. The invalidation by tribe of what we he and I are to each other. And yes - I know its modernity bullshit, but still it really hurts me. Has anyone else had experience within polyamory of being nonsexual but still in partnership? I certainly believe in platonic intimacy as super inportant and have a lot of that in my life. I don't begrudge him that. Or his journey with his nesting partner. but its bloody confusing to me nonethless, to find my ground in all of this. many thanks