My name is not Megs, it's Magdlyn.
Thanks for the recommendation to look into child porn... (?). wth?
I tried to watch E2 of The Chosen and found it even more boring than the first one, so I'm done.
Sorry for the faux pas. I used an "e" instead of an "a." Mags, poly, non-binary, she/her, correct? Unless you prefer I use the longer form instead. (I aim to please where I can.)
(For me, it doesn't have to be much, it just has to be nice, why? Because whatever someone else does, doesn't define me as a person, regardless how others think of me, it only defines them.)
Also, it's not inappropriate to the thread, since trauma, emotional or otherwise, is a pattern to look for now and can be a vital experience, as Jung said and young Phoenix's story shows, that trauma can be a powerful force for change, when perceived as a gift. But trauma can affect people others ways too, and it's not only them that's affected, but everyone around them as well. Who knows what's going on in the life and mind of someone else?
I know from first hand experience in dealing with my poly spouse who was molested at a young age, I know she dragged that into our Covenant marriage and traumatized and affected both me .and then also my son, by her behaviour and attitudes, since this reverberates and affects everyone around her. I was that hurt, angry and confused, I sought help. After 6 months of therapy and under three weeks of observation, they couldn't find anything wrong with me before I told my shrink that she was molested at a young age. She blew up at me for not telling her sooner, (which certainty didn't help my anxiety and major trust issues much<g>), then recommended me to ACOA through Al-Anon.
By then, after 72 days of fasting, and investing a considerable amount my future financially to clearing up the mess, I was at the point that I had to open myself up with a crowbar, emotionally speaking. In that group was a mutual acquaintance/friend who knew both me and my spouse, and she gave me a hug. A hug, that's all. That one hug saved my life and turned everything around, where I can now see my spouse with eyes of compassion, turning my trauma into a gift.
That happened to a polyamorist. Me. And if happened to me, it could happen to anyone else who is a polyamorist. So it is entirely relevant to the thread.
Now imagine that story multiplied 5000% with the wreckage of relationships it will cause in future relationships. Our kids. I was fortunate. I'm polyamorous. I see myself, married to a planet of 8 billion souls, and to a God that loves both me and her. That group didn't exist until all this happened. We both discovered we were poly, and achieved a state of compersion before all this.
I was accused of much, and my reactions didn't help much either, and was left holding a bag of toxic shame and utterly confused, till someone, a stranger practically, loved me enough to give me a hug. That group loved me back to life. That's how powerful 12step/ Jungianism is.
We're polyamorists. Our environment treats us as outcasts. We're polyamorists. If we don't watch out for ourselves and health, who the heck will? We're attempting to do something that most of the world doesn't even see, thank god, and probably never will. I was fortunate, I was provided with a shield of anonymity, which I still enjoy today. I can slip in and out of 3 communities seamlessly without them ever even knowing I'm a polyamorist activist as I usually do, to listen, observe, question and take notes. Not because I'm being secretive, because I'm not, I'm just discreet and like my privacy.
Most people don't see me as I see them. I just treat everyone as a brother or sister anyway, unless if there is a mutual attraction, then I'll out myself, and we can take it from there. Anyone that wants to change me or is incompatible, I'll just distance myself to a point where I feel comfortably my own poly self.
Most polys are forging ahead into uncharted waters, with no cloak of invisibility, totally exposed to a hostile world, with no social safety net. To others, we are a minority and do not exist. You may not be inspired by what I and others write, but I figure I have a knack for it, I just figure I'll need a way to do so without becoming a target of abuse like JFK, or King or overwhelmed like, Ryam N., or Dave P. or the guys of the new tribe of Kerista that I contacted.
Gestalt, with rigid rules, rigid roles, with an outward facing focus on enforcing compliance to fit the group, fear-centric to hierarchical structuring naturally seems the way to go for some reason, till the system collapses. In a Jungian system, it is individually focused with a common group goal of self-help, no hierarchies except a trust in a source that put us here while maintaining our focus on own health, growth and accountability, inwardly focused to be the best version of ourselves regardless of others, it's attraction based, and love centric and is a much stronger base, because even if the system collapses, the individual remains an individual in tact anyway. I find it works for me, and if not for you, fine, count me invisible, I am not the droid you're looking for, move along, move along.
Tolkien was an artist, and an influence, and through one of his characters he said, and I paraphrase, "It's not great power I find, but simple gestures of love and kindness that keeps evil at bay." Opening a door or holding one for another human being, greeting someone with a smile, helping with a parcel, making an amend, since I'm human not god, telling a joke, or just giving a warm hug when appropriate with no agenda attached, doesn't cost me a thing, but gives me the ability to look in a mirror and not be repulsed by the image I see reflected back. And if I should close my eyes for the very last time as my life flashes before me, and nothing awaits for me beyond, or if I'm wrong and download into a chair, or if I'm right and a Higher Power with the ability to heal both me and her, with a key capable opening every door in the mansion, and welcomes me home with an open door, I'll be content with that thought and be at peace within myself.
You're a visual artist, so am I. The objective of an artist is to move his or her audience with his or her work. I don't just watch a movie, I notice everything, the content, the composition, the lighting, the cast, the music , etc.. There's a new way happening in the video arts that's crowd funded only, it bypasses big companies and their programming to what they want you to see. So I've attached the link for anyone else here to see, but only if they want to or not. I was moved, you may not , others may, I'll leave it up to them if they want to even see it or not.
Fight for the light. Silence the darkness.
invest.angel.com
