Pigwidgeon
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My husband and I have got to a generally good place thanks, partly to lockdown forcing us to slow things down. He is mono (but I think still on apps so potentially open to more if the right person came along) and I am definitely poly.
He still finds it difficult though, it’s more that he understands and accepts things and knows I love and respect him and want to be with him, rather than compersion or feeling turned on by the thought of me with someone else.
So the agreement is that he knows where I’m going and who with but that’s enough unless he asks me specific questions. I totally respect this, even though it goes against every fibre of my being!
I am a sharer, I am all for openness and honesty. I think that knowing the actual truth - even if you don’t like it - is better than a million what ifs. I don’t want anything to feel like secrets or lies, or to tell a friend something my husband doesn’t know and worry it might come up later!
Just interested to hear people’s thoughts on this set up really.
He still finds it difficult though, it’s more that he understands and accepts things and knows I love and respect him and want to be with him, rather than compersion or feeling turned on by the thought of me with someone else.
So the agreement is that he knows where I’m going and who with but that’s enough unless he asks me specific questions. I totally respect this, even though it goes against every fibre of my being!
I am a sharer, I am all for openness and honesty. I think that knowing the actual truth - even if you don’t like it - is better than a million what ifs. I don’t want anything to feel like secrets or lies, or to tell a friend something my husband doesn’t know and worry it might come up later!
Just interested to hear people’s thoughts on this set up really.