Failing2Pisces
New member
Hey all,
I'm actually a Leo, not a Pisces You can call me Morgan.
I identify best as solo poly at this time. I am usually a lurker and not active on discussion boards nor on social media, but I have been *so* frustrated with relationships and dating that I have found it necessary to engage more on the internet than I am used to in order to get support.
I've read through the posting guidelines and looked through some examples of "Introductions" and "Personal Summaries", but I apologize if I inadvertently mix up some details of what is supposed to be posted where.
A brief "About Me": 33 years old, cis female, bisexual, gender fluid. Not currently in a relationship.
Why I am here: Historically, I have been in hetero, monogamous relationships. I have been aware for years that monogamous, escalator-type relationships do not fit me, but without the vocabulary to describe just why those relationships chaff. Now that I am in my 30's and my life has come together enough to really focus on dating, I have been able to begin to educate myself about non-traditional relationship structure. However, I have been having difficulty with dating because I have not yet dialed in how to search for, screen, and communicate efficiently about what I am looking for, especially on dating apps. I am so frustrated with hearing that "I have commitment issues" and that "I do not know what I want"; people who say these things to me are using traditional-type relationships as their only valid reference point. To hear those things at turns makes me feel rotten, but also spurs me on to find like-minded people.
Currently, I am feeling a bit overwhelmed by all the information to sift through. I have put dating on pause for a while, partially motivated by this overwhelm, but also because I have found that even though I have identified as non-monogamous while being active in the dating realm, people are a bit hesitant to engage with me because I have never actually been in a non-monogamous relationship. Not a bad time to take a pause, given how the pandemic has made dating a bit more complicated in its own way.
I will be looking through threads especially for solo poly-specific information...if anyone knows of a foundational place to start, I appreciate the heads up!
Looking forward to chatting with you all.
I'm actually a Leo, not a Pisces You can call me Morgan.
I identify best as solo poly at this time. I am usually a lurker and not active on discussion boards nor on social media, but I have been *so* frustrated with relationships and dating that I have found it necessary to engage more on the internet than I am used to in order to get support.
I've read through the posting guidelines and looked through some examples of "Introductions" and "Personal Summaries", but I apologize if I inadvertently mix up some details of what is supposed to be posted where.
A brief "About Me": 33 years old, cis female, bisexual, gender fluid. Not currently in a relationship.
Why I am here: Historically, I have been in hetero, monogamous relationships. I have been aware for years that monogamous, escalator-type relationships do not fit me, but without the vocabulary to describe just why those relationships chaff. Now that I am in my 30's and my life has come together enough to really focus on dating, I have been able to begin to educate myself about non-traditional relationship structure. However, I have been having difficulty with dating because I have not yet dialed in how to search for, screen, and communicate efficiently about what I am looking for, especially on dating apps. I am so frustrated with hearing that "I have commitment issues" and that "I do not know what I want"; people who say these things to me are using traditional-type relationships as their only valid reference point. To hear those things at turns makes me feel rotten, but also spurs me on to find like-minded people.
Currently, I am feeling a bit overwhelmed by all the information to sift through. I have put dating on pause for a while, partially motivated by this overwhelm, but also because I have found that even though I have identified as non-monogamous while being active in the dating realm, people are a bit hesitant to engage with me because I have never actually been in a non-monogamous relationship. Not a bad time to take a pause, given how the pandemic has made dating a bit more complicated in its own way.
I will be looking through threads especially for solo poly-specific information...if anyone knows of a foundational place to start, I appreciate the heads up!
Looking forward to chatting with you all.