AnnikaAtlas
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My partner and I have been poly philosophically for years, but never actually sought other partners.
When I got pregnant last year (I'm due in March), taking care of him seemed like a ton of work. I encouraged him to pester someone else for his needs.
He ended up casually dating someone, and it didn't work out. Now he's casually seeing someone else and the whole situation feels like a big slap in the face.
He essentially told me, "We've decided to start dating" after telling me specifically that he didn't have intentions to pursue her, and after spending the night at her place multiple times.
They spend weekends together, and every evening they play video games online together late into the night. This makes me feel incredibly rejected, as I'm still the one at home doing his laundry and cooking him dinner. I totally got shafted, and he's not even appreciative of what I do.
Then we get into this cycle, where I'm pissed that he chooses her over me, he acts like I'm being bitchy for no reason, I ignore and reject him, and so he continues to choose her over me.
I don't know what to do. I don't think this is poly, I think this is him using me and cheating on me and then telling me about it. I don't know what to do. I want him to man up and fight for me, but it doesn't look like that's going to happen. And now I'm very pregnant, very alone, very unemployed, exhausted, and feel, well, used up and no good to anyone. I have nowhere to go.
Our roommate moves out in the next ten days. I might just take the guest room and see if he comes to his senses when he has to stare his little boy in the face and then walk out on us. Think that'll work?
Sigh. I know I should leave. I know this is toxic and going nowhere fast, but I just don't have the energy or resources. Some days I'm just so sad and hurt, and then other days I'm angry and vindictive. I want to tell his other girl to run while she can-- after all, once she wants to settle down and be the wife, I guarantee he'll skip out on her to go find a fun girlfriend instead.
When I got pregnant last year (I'm due in March), taking care of him seemed like a ton of work. I encouraged him to pester someone else for his needs.
He ended up casually dating someone, and it didn't work out. Now he's casually seeing someone else and the whole situation feels like a big slap in the face.
He essentially told me, "We've decided to start dating" after telling me specifically that he didn't have intentions to pursue her, and after spending the night at her place multiple times.
They spend weekends together, and every evening they play video games online together late into the night. This makes me feel incredibly rejected, as I'm still the one at home doing his laundry and cooking him dinner. I totally got shafted, and he's not even appreciative of what I do.
Then we get into this cycle, where I'm pissed that he chooses her over me, he acts like I'm being bitchy for no reason, I ignore and reject him, and so he continues to choose her over me.
I don't know what to do. I don't think this is poly, I think this is him using me and cheating on me and then telling me about it. I don't know what to do. I want him to man up and fight for me, but it doesn't look like that's going to happen. And now I'm very pregnant, very alone, very unemployed, exhausted, and feel, well, used up and no good to anyone. I have nowhere to go.
Our roommate moves out in the next ten days. I might just take the guest room and see if he comes to his senses when he has to stare his little boy in the face and then walk out on us. Think that'll work?
Sigh. I know I should leave. I know this is toxic and going nowhere fast, but I just don't have the energy or resources. Some days I'm just so sad and hurt, and then other days I'm angry and vindictive. I want to tell his other girl to run while she can-- after all, once she wants to settle down and be the wife, I guarantee he'll skip out on her to go find a fun girlfriend instead.