I dunno, icesong. I think I may see this one fundamentally differently. To me, it's beautiful to feel that I am able to completely reveal myself. That I don't have to feel ashamed of being me and to know that I will still be loved and accepted. I've never felt so safe as I do with Henry because he really has seen all the bad and all my quirks and everything and he still loves me and wants to be with me. I feel like it builds a more authentic connection where we really see each other and not just the good bits.
It's not that bad times aren't an energy suck sometimes, I get that. But I see that as part of people supporting each other and being there. And the closeness that it builds is worth the price to me and Henry anyway.
Well, you've been with Henry five years, and Charles only one year. Maybe by respecting his boundaries now, you'll see a payoff in more closeness as your relationship grows. One year is not really that long in the grand scheme of things.
Of course, this Covid is fucking almost everything up right now. It's causing all kinds of glitches in all kinds of relationships, not just romantic ones. We can't expect everyone to be at the top of their relationship game.