bigasstracy
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I met two guys that wanted me for a romantic relationship I got to California and the older guy changed his mind what should I do?
Was going to be in triad my lovers changed mind after I moved to California What should I do?
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LaminarFlow
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Are they a couple looking to date together? Or are each able to date solo?
Generally, it would be best to back out altogether. This doesn't look good.
Generally, it would be best to back out altogether. This doesn't look good.
bigasstracy
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Yeah I was supposed to live with him they wanted them both marry me I told him that wasn't going to work because they were already married. The younger guy he came to visit me last summer in Seattle he was in love with me but I don't think he was cuz I got sick and ended up in the hospital they showed up with all my belongings told me I couldn't come home but I mean that was messed up
So they left you effectively homeless in an unfamiliar city while you were getting medical treatment?
What do you do? You get away from there and them as fast as you can and go back to somewhere that you have accommodation, friends, family, possibly work or financial support. You put yourself 100% first until you are back on an even keel, and then you reflect on how to avoid such a situation again.
What do you do? You get away from there and them as fast as you can and go back to somewhere that you have accommodation, friends, family, possibly work or financial support. You put yourself 100% first until you are back on an even keel, and then you reflect on how to avoid such a situation again.
I am sorry this happened to you. They both sound very cruel and irresponsible.
This isn't specifically a poly issue. If you had moved to join a monogamous person in a mono relationship, and he kicked you out while you were in the hospital, that would also be terrible and would leave you in the same predicament.
You'd still have to do the same thing: move back, or ask for help from friends or family if you can't move back.
This isn't specifically a poly issue. If you had moved to join a monogamous person in a mono relationship, and he kicked you out while you were in the hospital, that would also be terrible and would leave you in the same predicament.
You'd still have to do the same thing: move back, or ask for help from friends or family if you can't move back.
bigasstracy
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Meera thanks for the support everything's going to be fine ended up moving to San Diego I love it here I'm going to I'm going to meet the right couple I'm still interested in being in a triad and it's exciting
bigasstracy
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Evie it's working out I found a place to live in San Diego love it here not as cold as Seattle I know I'm going to meet a nice couple in fall in love all over again
bigasstracy
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I just love the idea and mean in a relationship with two men at the same time trouple this is all new to me I'm 62 now and I'm just experiencing life
LaminarFlow
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This is awful. Glad things turned around and you found a place in SD.
Hope you find what you are looking for there.
Hope you find what you are looking for there.
Good for you. Here at polyamory.com you can learn a lot about how being in multiple loving relationships works. Please see our Golden Nuggets forum for more information. There is a list of reading resources and a link to older archived threads on pretty much every poly topic.
You might want to read up on triads (or as some call them, throuples). They are actually the hardest way to do polyamory, to be perfectly honest, especially if you're new to poly.
Here is why:
Triad or V - What's More Complicated?
I get a lot of people new to polyamory insisting that they must date together, or meet people together, because it "will be less complicated." I see this in comments on social media, on dating app profiles, on couple's profiles on social media (that black and red one that starts with an F...
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