What are the proper terms?

Kynde

Kynde

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See my sig... We call ourselves a triad, but it's probably not the correct term.

Meow and I are not romantically involved, but we are very emotionally close. If she were the cuddly type we'd probably cuddle, but she's not touchy-feely that way. But, we share and talk and chat all day long, as I'm working and she's staying at home. What are she and I to each other? The proper term?

We have all agreed to stay closed. We are "saturated" and complete as we are. We all live together, but they are in the main house and I'm in the tiny home right next to the main home. We are making a family. :)

At some point Sir and I will probably have a handfasting, and he will consider himself having two wives-- her legal, me, of course, not, but in spirit yes. He considers himself an unconventional polygamist. I believe this is the correct term for him.
 
You guys are metamours in poly terms, really close ones, obviously, but at the heart of it you're not partners/lovers/etc., so we'd also say you're the legs of a V in a closed poly relationship.
 
Evie said:
You guys are metamours in poly terms, really close ones, obviously. But at the heart of it you're not partners/lovers/etc., so we'd also say you're the legs of a V in a closed poly relationship.
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This is where it doesn't quite fit. Meow and I are partners, too. Not sexually, but there are asexual couples out there. We are more like sisters than friends. As we are not young anymore, we had conversations and decided, the two of us together, if this works out long term as we intend, that if something happens to him (God forbid) she and I would stay together and take care of each other.
 
There are evolving thoughts on this. You might look up platonic polyamory, or queer platonic poly.

It's not cut and dried. Some would indeed consider you three to be a triad, even if the sexual element is missing between the two women. Some of us think might you're just close friends, while young poly people might consider you platonic poly partners or lovers (minus a sexual aspect, if you're both straight, or, if queer, not attracted to each other).
 
Hi BirdieMakes3,

Technically a V is when one person (the hinge) has romantic relationships with two other people (the legs), but the two other people don't have a romantic relationship with each other. A triad is when all three people are romantically involved with each other. However, I have heard that a V can be called an emotional triad if the legs have a super close friendship with each other -- a bit more than just a friendship.

You and Meow could perhaps say you are sister-wives to each other. Certainly you are metamours to each other. You can find more open/poly terms in our Glossary and Definitions thread.

Regards,
Kevin T.
 
To add you can be both metamours and platonic partners. Labels are not mutually exclusive.

Even in a triad you have partners:
A+B
A+C
B+C
A+B+C

And metamours:
A+B
A+C
B+C
 
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