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Hi there, I've been wondering more and more about hierarchy lately. [I'm considering whether we should label our relationship as such, but I don't want that to be the focus of this thread - I think I may put more personal details in my blog sometime in the foreseeable future.] I do mean the...

Maybe you know the situation: You learn something uncomfortable. Your stomach cramps and turns upside down. Your back tenses to a painful degree. Maybe you pull away and shut down. Every now and then someone comes here with the same story: They chose polyamory. They would LIKE to be sex...

Is it just my impression, or are there way less regular posters than there used to be? And correspondingly less diverse opinions? People don't stick around... I wonder if it could be helped somehow.

I realize there is a topic I still haven't been able to wrap my head around with poly (and, possibly, relationships in general). In monogamy, marriage/commitment traditionally involves "in sickness and in health, until death do us part." We believe in ageing together and, to a big extent, take...

When beginner texts discuss the downsides of poly, several topics come up - time management, societal pressures, poly hell/managing the new and shiny NRE relationship. Rarely, if ever, have I seen discussed what I view (in my current phase of life) as perhaps the biggest downside - the decreased...

The title is self-explanatory. "Don't go visit your 90y old grandma" is a no-brainer, wash your hands, what else? Are there any special precautions to be taken since in poly, not just love but also diseases are often shared with more intimate partners?

Hello, I would appreciate good questions and suggestions on both the practical and the feelings aspects of the situation at hand. Backgroud: I've been dating Idealist for 5+ years. He's living with Meta, together for 13 years, and they have a small kid. I don't have a great relationship with...

Would appreciate some help on this. Prelude: I date Idealist for five years now. He lives with Meta and spends a night or two a week at my place. Idealist and Meta are going to have a child. At her age, this was very uncertain even with medical assistance, yet Meta's huge dream. Idealist...

A while ago I wrote about playing with a friend / starting a fwb relationship and not being somewhat afraid of falling in love. Well, that didn't quite happen, at least on my side - I find the biggest part of me only wants to see him say once every two weeks for a scene and then perhaps a follow...

Back to basics for me, I guess. So recently I offered a bdsm scene to a dear friend of mine whom I know to be submissive. It was a mutually rewarding experience I believe, yet in the days after I felt the dizziness of falling into love, and when we talked he admitted to having been in love...

This is not specific to poly, anyway, a great overview of what to consider beforehand and how to come out https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MJ-8ocmtb_8 The only big area relevant to poly I don't see discussed in the video are the specifics or coming out to your spouse and weighing the impact a...

So. I'm in a 3 years old relationship with Idealist, who's in an 11 years relationship with Meta. Our trio was probably from the beginning never ever on the same page. Back then, Idealist+Meta agreed that he'll be looking for a submissive, but while he's kind of egalitarian and "conduct...

We often tell each other on this forum to work on some issue, develop some skills, be happy in the moment or change something. The problem I see, as the receivers of such advice, we often have no idea how to start, or we even believe that the task is simply impossible for ourselves, period...

So, obviously, none of my past relationships lasted :) What I see as a repeating pattern now is, that after the first two years (NRE?) I want to do more and more things of my own never mind the partner, the relationship becomes dull, I gradually loose interest in the partner, I start feeling the...

I have a question regarding my responsibilities to my metamour. Tl;dr of the situation: There is a scheduling conflict about alone time. Idealist doesn't seem really willing to promis Meta an evening during the weak to be hers alone. He cares for time with me, though sometimes other things...

Hello everyone, this is Tinwen, nice to meet you on my blog! Here, I might store little fragments of thoughts and associations popping into my head when reading other parts of the forum, I will pose questions that don't deserve their own thread, blog about my relationship and life a little...

Hi everyone, I have been around this forum for some time now, and I figure people are really helpful, and I would use few tips now. Thing is, I am really inexperienced when it comes to early dating or just having a crush on someone, I have had three partners throughout my life and in each...

Hello, please, I need some outside views on my situation, since I keep getting lost in it, and I am unable to really do anything about it. I has been more then a year now, since I fell madly in love with a poly person. The beginning was very, very tough, since I had never come in touch with...