52 and starting again and this is new

[Scar52]

Hello everyone,

I am about to turn 52 and it has only been this year that I have had the confidence to talk to my best female friend about what I desire from life and she has suggested this could be it.

I am a man who loves women and men but have never been able to say it out loud.

I would really appreciate the opportunity to speak to anyone in this circle about these feelings I have and how I can move them forward and ultimately be happy.
just split with my my girlfriend who I adored but couldn't make the ends meet.

Thanks

Si

 

[icesong]

Hi! Welcome to the forum! I'm sure Kevin will be along shortly (he's our official greeter and has all sorts of useful things to read) but in the meantime... congratulations on finding yourself. There are a LOT of us who found polyamory due to our bisexuality - hi, I'm one of them. It's not the easiest path but it IS one that you can find happiness on.

 

[Scar52]

Thanks for sending a reply, i look forward to hearing more

 

[kdt26417]

Hello Scar52,

Welcome aboard, I'm glad you could join us. It sounds like you are considering polyamory in order to be able to date both men and women at the same time -- correct me if that's not the case. I take it that finances are also an issue? Like, having both a boyfriend and a girlfriend to pitch in on costs would make it easier to make ends meet? versus only just a girlfriend to pitch in. Again I could be wrong, correct me if I am. Here are some links that may be helpful to you:

• Poly FAQ
• Master Thread - links to other threads worth reading
• Glossary and Definitions thread
• Polyamory Websites
• https://www.okcupid.com/
• Opening Up
• Coming Out (video)
• kitchen table poly
• What If I Get Jealous?
• What about the Kids? (General Poly Discussions, 207 posts, 2014-2016)
• Poly-Friendly Cities
• Poly Vignettes: Sharing Success & Happiness

And I would be happy to do my best to answer any questions you may have. Let me know.
Sincerely,
Kevin T.

 

[Magdlyn]

I was also confused about making ends meet. What does that have to do with polyamory, dating and bisexuality?

 

[icesong]

just split with my my girlfriend who I adored but couldn't make the ends meet.

Funny, everyone else took this as financial but I thought you meant that you couldn't keep a connection with your former partner because of having to hide your bisexuality and(?) polyamorous leanings.