Kitten0907
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So the situation goes something like this. I had a crush on my guy friend for the longest time. He’s always been unavailable and until recently I had kept it a secret to preserve our friendship. His girlfriend is sweet and caring and I can find no fault in her or have any reason to want to break them up.
About a year and a half ago they asked me to join them in the bedroom (a sexual fantasy they both had wanted to try) I agreed and admitted that I had feelings for him worried that it would make things weird. Tldr I enjoyed myself with the both of them. I had never really been intimate with anyone up until that point and had never really considered doing anything with another woman. I started to fall in love with her as well as falling harder for him and we started dating. My dilemma is while I love this girl and love the affection I sometimes find that I don’t feel any sexual attraction to her. Most of the time we focus on him and tag team or take turns more then with each other. She seems to enjoy both of us equally but I find sometimes with her feels like I’m just going through the motions. I don’t want to hurt her but I feel like I’m being dishonest about how I feel.
please no hate I just need some friendly advice. I don’t want to lose either one of them.
About a year and a half ago they asked me to join them in the bedroom (a sexual fantasy they both had wanted to try) I agreed and admitted that I had feelings for him worried that it would make things weird. Tldr I enjoyed myself with the both of them. I had never really been intimate with anyone up until that point and had never really considered doing anything with another woman. I started to fall in love with her as well as falling harder for him and we started dating. My dilemma is while I love this girl and love the affection I sometimes find that I don’t feel any sexual attraction to her. Most of the time we focus on him and tag team or take turns more then with each other. She seems to enjoy both of us equally but I find sometimes with her feels like I’m just going through the motions. I don’t want to hurt her but I feel like I’m being dishonest about how I feel.
please no hate I just need some friendly advice. I don’t want to lose either one of them.