Thank you Monkeystyle. I think my personality type has a lot to do with how I write AND how I percieve people in my life, even when I am struggling through the hurt.
I am an ENFJ. If you haven't, check out the book "please understand me II" It has a WEALTH of information about the different personality types & the things you mention about me (and my writing) are key components of my personality type, which is an Idealist Teacher.
Yep-that is the same as Panther's. It's 1% of the population. He doesn't tend to be as concerned with people understanding him-but he is DEFINITELY an introvert in every sense of the word. Very much prefers one on one or maybe two on one get togethers. Not group settings and he NEEDS his down time or he's impossible to even talk to.I am a strong believer in MB typing. I'm an INFJ, for what it's worth, so perhaps I gravitate to your writing a bit for that reason? My type is the rarest of the rare, I believe.
Panther and I have been friends for over 25 years. There's always been a sexual tension-but we have never been willing to act on it, primarily because of major differences in our lives. He is very much a free-spirit and my life just didn't make that feasible for me.So I went back through a few pieces of your blog, just randomly (because I can't remember who Panther is, thought I'd see something),
It is absolutely the key goal.and saw that you were looking to move to California at some point. Is that still a possibility or is it on the back burner?
I completely understand and he is very much so in many ways. I enjoy hanging out with him. I love him and adore him. But I struggle under the pressure for me to be like him-which I am not.On Maca, he sounds 'old school'. Like the archetypical American male. He's probably not hard to get along with in some ways, and completely infuriating in others. Easy and difficult all rolled into one. I'd probably like hanging out with him, based on what you've written. That's no defense of his behavior, but one quality doesn't rule out any other qualities.
This is why I don't "date". I only consider relationships with people I already have long term friendships with. People who are already used to my life and don't mind hanging out with me when I have the kids and grandkids.Purely out of curiosity, how in the hell do you have time to consider relationships at all considering how amped up your life gets between kids/grandkids/school/health/the daily grind/etc?
Wel-baby is still in mommy which is good news. She's been in and out of the hospital and it's been touchy. She's seeing the dr at least twice a week at this point. The c section is scheduled for December 20th. The 18th the boys come to me and I will have them for 10 straight days. If (fingers crossed) she makes it to the 20th the plan is to take the baby out and put her in the NICU to be sure she gains enough weight etc before sending her home. At this point; baby appears to be healthy and growing well. The big concern is SpicyPea's internal tear & the risk to her life if the labor begins.How's your daughter's baby due in January coming along? Is all well there? If I missed an update on that I apologize.
Well we actually HAVE snow now lol. We have only had snow a week. It was starting to look pretty sad and pathetic. The whole US covered in snow and we were still dry and clear!BTW, I'll be up in your neck of the woods for Iditarod in a few months (my daughter's gig), save some snow for us.
Oh gee, there is a "Disorder" for everything these days. Whatever happened to "I realized I was doing ___ and ___ and my life wasn't going too well, but now I will strive to do ___ and make some changes to improve my life." It helps to avoid personal responsibility, I suppose, to blame things on the next trendy disorder. Sorry - just a rant.He's had some major awakening moments in the last few months. Nothing that makes it possible for us to be in a relationship. But things that he needed to figure out.
One of them is that he's far too dependent on me. He was researching Dependent Personality Disorder and finding that he fits all of the criteria.
Oh, that is good! At least you have an option.He did say his apartment has a spare room and it's mine if I want it-no strings attached. If I need a place to go, I have one. Which does relieve some anxiety for me, because I DO need a place to go, but I also desperately need to finish school and I don't know how to afford a place (which would require me to work at least 1 full time job and probably also have another part time job) AND stay in school.
You have a lot on your plate - but you always did! You can do it!I love.
But that doesn't mean that those I love have a right to infringe upon each others lives and privacy.
That doesn't mean that they have a right to make demands on me...
I don't know-I guess I'm in the midst of a major emotional overhaul in my life.
Still looking for work.
Still planning to move to California.
Still working on finishing up my bachelors degree.
Still hoping to finish my masters and phd.
Still focusing on improving myself.
I'm glad you wrote this. I have been thinking about getting it.I read the book "More Than Two". I greatly enjoyed it. I can see how the book is a major improvement on considering varying view points while maintaining the expectation of high ethics; compared to the website. On the website Franklin tends to get stuck in his own viewpoint (don't we all) but in the book, I think having a co-author really helped branch things out.
I was duly impressed.