TheMightyFionn
New member
Hello and Happy Holidays to all.
My reason for posting here is to have people challenge and entice my thoughts, perhaps give me some critical advice and help me formulate my thoughts and emotions.
A little about me. 65, widowed, from NJ, grown children, grandchildren. I am in good health, active and yet have not had a relationship post-pandemic. I have had dates, but no one has really grabbed my interest. I am an innately happy person, BUT I also feel that I would be a better man with a partner/woman in my life. My belief system is that I am NOT a promiscuous person, and although I may not go to church very often, my faith is important to me. I believe in my heart of hearts that the physical aspects of intimacy are in fact part of the spiritual, emotional, and intellectual aspects of intimacy. "I" feel you cannot have one without the rest.
So, all that said... recently I have been thinking long about who/what is my team for getting older.
Would it be better to have two women in my life to build something for later together?
Should I consider having children again? (My grandfather was having kids at 65.)
Does anyone know of older gentlemen starting a new family steeped in faith with more than one woman?
What are your experiences that could assist me with my MOST SINCERE ideas?
Please know that I am not naive to think that this is easy. I understand adult relations are very complicated for two people who possess ego, pride, trust issues, and that adding a 3rd probably grows that exponentially. I understand that. I understand that 92% of poly relationships fail. But I also believe a STRONG faith, clear communications and managing expectations better your chances in life.
So... anyone feel like taking a shot at this?
Kindest regards,
TMF
My reason for posting here is to have people challenge and entice my thoughts, perhaps give me some critical advice and help me formulate my thoughts and emotions.
A little about me. 65, widowed, from NJ, grown children, grandchildren. I am in good health, active and yet have not had a relationship post-pandemic. I have had dates, but no one has really grabbed my interest. I am an innately happy person, BUT I also feel that I would be a better man with a partner/woman in my life. My belief system is that I am NOT a promiscuous person, and although I may not go to church very often, my faith is important to me. I believe in my heart of hearts that the physical aspects of intimacy are in fact part of the spiritual, emotional, and intellectual aspects of intimacy. "I" feel you cannot have one without the rest.
So, all that said... recently I have been thinking long about who/what is my team for getting older.
Would it be better to have two women in my life to build something for later together?
Should I consider having children again? (My grandfather was having kids at 65.)
Does anyone know of older gentlemen starting a new family steeped in faith with more than one woman?
What are your experiences that could assist me with my MOST SINCERE ideas?
Please know that I am not naive to think that this is easy. I understand adult relations are very complicated for two people who possess ego, pride, trust issues, and that adding a 3rd probably grows that exponentially. I understand that. I understand that 92% of poly relationships fail. But I also believe a STRONG faith, clear communications and managing expectations better your chances in life.
So... anyone feel like taking a shot at this?
Kindest regards,
TMF