You can feel however you feel.
Could expect there to be a learning curve for all of you if this whole V just started this summer and she just moved in 2 weeks ago. He's learning how to balance his work and home life and how to be a hinge to two partners. You and she are learning how to be roomies and metas on top of being friends from before.
Right now hubs one night with me then wife2, no prob there i want us to have equal time.
I would check the calendar. I see days for him to be with you, and days for him to be with her. Where's the days for him to be with just him so he can REST?
I would also stop talking with him about what he does with his other partner. Every dyad needs their own privacy. Other than safer sex practices and birth control agreements? You really don't need to know what kind of sex they have or how much. And she doesn't need to hear that about your side of the V either.
i hate to burden and put stress on hubs but i feel I should get sex on my nights too
So? Have some. Masturbate. You can have orgasms on your own whenever you want.
If I'm horny and masturbate next to my spouse and he's too tired? He puts his hand on my bottom and when I make me orgasm he pats it and goes "That's my girl." That too is shared sexual intimacy. The world does not revolved around PIV orgasms.
If it's that you want closeness and connection in other ways -- ask for the partnered activities you'd like. Date nights. Kissing, hugging, tickling, whatever.
Could be flexible about what sharing sex looks like. Ask if there's intercourse or outercourse he finds less wearying? Watching you masturbate? Mutual masturbation? Oral? Toys? You on top? Something else?
I dont always get satisfied on quickie nights but at least we have that connection and that matters to me.
Could suggest other things to do that foster connection and not focus so much on orgasm.
And if the quickies aren't all that? It's ok to skip them.
Do i need to be more inderstanding and patience or do I have a right to feel this way
It doesn't have to be either/or. It could be both/and.
Like you could be more understanding that he's tired and ask him if the calendar needs to include nights for just him to REST. Because he's all worn out all the time.
Could be more patient with them being in the honeymoon phase. I imagine you had that phase with him too.
AND could tell him that you'd like better quality sex and connection on your nights. Not just always quickies on the weekend and that's it. Connecting in other ways, and then if you do share sex, better sex for shared pleasure, sensuality, caring, expression. Not like checking a chore off the list.
Galagirl