Inaniel
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DIDNT Michael Douglas blame his throat cancer on this or was that something else ?
That would be HPV. The CDC states that HPV is responsible for 70% of throat cancers.
DIDNT Michael Douglas blame his throat cancer on this or was that something else ?
Does this mean she contracted it prior to marriage or after they opened up ?Um I believe they have been open for like 23 years. And her husband doesn’t have partners and the partner doesn’t either I believe. She just has herpes. She says she’s never passed it over to any of her previous 19 partners.
Ooo good question I’ll find out! What do u mean my statistics? Like what statistics have you heard? They tell me the risk is super low…Does this mean she contracted it prior to marriage or after they opened up ?
I’m Not sure if her claim would make me feel better from a procedure and practices point of view and worse from a statistical probability of transmission rates.
Do you have an agreement with your husband that he only sees her when you have plans too?But for now I’m controlling and liar…since he got a weekend confused and said I had plans 2 days when it was only for one…and she then thought it was me sabotaging there meeting.
Well, we have now currently closed the relationship and no we had made plans prior to that. We would make sure that our scheduling was when we had time. if my plans fell through it wouldn’t affect his plans.Do you have an agreement with your husband that he only sees her when you have plans too?
This is the type of agreement that can cause conflict in polyamory as it does mean that their relationship is at the mercy of your plans, whether that was your original intention or not. It might also mean that if your plans fell through, he would be expected to cancel his. In either scenario, it may be why your metamour has made the accusation that you are being controlling. It's unfair to lobby this at you since your husband is just as responsible for any agreements, but it might be time to renegotiate your agreements so you do reduce the control each of you have over the other person's relationships.
Is she taking antiviral drugs? I read that helps reduce the risk. Regardless, I dated a woman who was infected when she was very young, she had several long term partners after that and never infected any, including me (thankfully). So perhaps the risk here is minimal especially if your husband uses condoms.Um I believe they have been open for like 23 years. And her husband doesn’t have partners and the partner doesn’t either I believe. She just has herpes. She says she’s never passed it over to any of her previous 19 partners.
Ya and our open marriage counselor told him to stop talking to her cuz it’s not beneficial to our closing but he doesn’t see why he needs to…. I’m leaving hoping and praying he will see what it’s like for me being gone and realizing he does love me and will do what’s needed to fix it….or he says I like this and I don’t wanna close and I can leave…then I’ll be alone and have no one ahhh it sucks.Hi Roxygirl,
I'm so sorry you and your husband are separated right now. This woman seems to me like such a toxic person, and she is poisoning your relationship with your husband.
Sympathetically,
Kevin T.
Yes I’ve read that article,but he just agreed to stop talking to her but thinks that cuz I called the counselor in a hurry to get the answers before Thursday so I could have some sanity is now a power play to him cuz she agreed with me. But really she had told him last week but he only heard what he wanted and that was wrong to me. He thinks he’s losing his friend but it’s a friend that’s causing problems and to me if he kept talking to her it means he doesn’t care how I’d feel. ?