opalescent
Active member
I actually have some poly news to report!
An old friend and I went to a show a little while ago. My friend is a lightweight in terms of booze, as am I. I was driving so did not have much to drink. He had a couple of beers.
After the show, while chatting at a coffee place, he let out that he thought I was attractive and sexy.
I didn't think much of it - he was tipsy. I figured he was being kind. Also I'd propositioned him shortly after we met. He declined and we've been platonic friends since. I'd assumed that ship had sailed some time ago.
Still it was nice to hear - as you all, my board friends know, dating has been unfun lately.
I did tell him later on how nice it was to hear those kind words from him. We talk more frequently and discuss our backgrounds, etc. It gets more explicit, more flirty, until he just comes out and says he is interested. He had been interested for a while but because of life circumstances didn't say anything.
So we've been discussing what's possible. It's exciting but complicated for lots of reasons. I've had a crush on him for years. Since he declined years ago, I'd put him firmly into platonic land and have been content there. Also, I am good friends with his wife. They are both very dear to me. And they have a young child. I've never dated someone with children. It has not been on purpose - my 'crowd' tends toward the child free. So that's new to me and something to consider. He doesn't have a lot of free time or energy between child, wife and job.
And there is internal stuff going on with me I need to sort out. Fallout and old patterns from past relationships I'd really like to avoid from now on. So I'm pausing on starting to see this man.
I will have to fill in more later. Time to eat!
An old friend and I went to a show a little while ago. My friend is a lightweight in terms of booze, as am I. I was driving so did not have much to drink. He had a couple of beers.
After the show, while chatting at a coffee place, he let out that he thought I was attractive and sexy.
I didn't think much of it - he was tipsy. I figured he was being kind. Also I'd propositioned him shortly after we met. He declined and we've been platonic friends since. I'd assumed that ship had sailed some time ago.
Still it was nice to hear - as you all, my board friends know, dating has been unfun lately.
I did tell him later on how nice it was to hear those kind words from him. We talk more frequently and discuss our backgrounds, etc. It gets more explicit, more flirty, until he just comes out and says he is interested. He had been interested for a while but because of life circumstances didn't say anything.
So we've been discussing what's possible. It's exciting but complicated for lots of reasons. I've had a crush on him for years. Since he declined years ago, I'd put him firmly into platonic land and have been content there. Also, I am good friends with his wife. They are both very dear to me. And they have a young child. I've never dated someone with children. It has not been on purpose - my 'crowd' tends toward the child free. So that's new to me and something to consider. He doesn't have a lot of free time or energy between child, wife and job.
And there is internal stuff going on with me I need to sort out. Fallout and old patterns from past relationships I'd really like to avoid from now on. So I'm pausing on starting to see this man.
I will have to fill in more later. Time to eat!