PickMoreDaisies
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Just signed up and already met some local people...nice site so far 
pixydust8605
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I'm on there, same sn. Actually, the first person I messaged was Poly, and more or less responsible for me finally and formally recognizing my poly tendencies.
Wasn't that lucky.I'm on there, same sn. Actually, the first person I messaged was Poly, and more or less responsible for me finally and formally recognizing my poly tendencies.
pixydust8605
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To further clarify, I was already interested in an open relationship, and in talking to this person I discovered the term "polyamory" and it fit what I was thinking like a glove!! This has all happened in the past month or so, so I am very new to the poly world, but I am excited about the possibilities!
Now all i have to do is get my ex to understand he has no right to my personal life anymore....
AutumnalTone
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Just so y'all know: I met my last wife and CurlySquirrel both via online dating sites. I have to say I'm completely on board with online dating!
I've been on OKC for several years. I've been there long enough to have changed my username a few times (deleting account and creating new one), and that happens only every couple of years (Hmmm...OKC reports last time was last August and that's simply not true. I've been SC there for much longer.)
I have met some really interesting ladies on the site, ladies who are either actively poly or not put off by it. The largest problem has been that those ladies haven't been local--not even close. One lady has been corresponding with me now for several months, and I think this connection will be strong enough to last for a long while, despite the distance. Interestingly, this lady is actively involved with a couple of other people, so our connection doesn't have to provide the immediacy of a primary relationship; the other ladies have been single and looking for a primary connection, I think--and the distance kills that.
I just started trading messages with a woman who lives in this area. I approached her looking for an activity partner to play music. She's made statements that indicate she's possibly interested in more than that. We'll have to see how it works out. She makes no mention of being poly in her profile; it's an obvious part of mine and I don't hide the fact that I'm married in discussions, though, so I suspect she's open to the prospect.
And I'm afraid there's no particular point to this message. I just got the urge to offer up some of my experience after scanning through the thread. I can report success in finding a wife online, and some success in finding additional partners.
I've been on OKC for several years. I've been there long enough to have changed my username a few times (deleting account and creating new one), and that happens only every couple of years (Hmmm...OKC reports last time was last August and that's simply not true. I've been SC there for much longer.)
I have met some really interesting ladies on the site, ladies who are either actively poly or not put off by it. The largest problem has been that those ladies haven't been local--not even close. One lady has been corresponding with me now for several months, and I think this connection will be strong enough to last for a long while, despite the distance. Interestingly, this lady is actively involved with a couple of other people, so our connection doesn't have to provide the immediacy of a primary relationship; the other ladies have been single and looking for a primary connection, I think--and the distance kills that.
I just started trading messages with a woman who lives in this area. I approached her looking for an activity partner to play music. She's made statements that indicate she's possibly interested in more than that. We'll have to see how it works out. She makes no mention of being poly in her profile; it's an obvious part of mine and I don't hide the fact that I'm married in discussions, though, so I suspect she's open to the prospect.
And I'm afraid there's no particular point to this message. I just got the urge to offer up some of my experience after scanning through the thread. I can report success in finding a wife online, and some success in finding additional partners.
Sometimes I find the opposite...but it depends on the pool of local people on the site too...which can vary quite a bit with different regions and city size. While poly's don't make up a large part of any population I've seen so far, they do trickle to the top on a site like OKC.
The challenge on OKC, and worse on some other sites like POF is that some women may not have been put off by poly initially, have been put off by ...less ethical sorts.
The funny part I find is that west coast, it seems most poly people are on OKC. East coast...not so sure. But the user base in the Maritimes seems to be underdeveloped so far.
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/chroma2424/ Here is my profile!
greenearthal
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I really and truly believed that OKC was just about useless.
Today I met a woman --in person even-- through an okc encounter. It was really quite awesome. I'm shocked.
Today I met a woman --in person even-- through an okc encounter. It was really quite awesome. I'm shocked.
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Ceoli
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Yay!!
OKC has been wonderful for me as I've met lots of great people through that site who are still in my life in wonderful ways.
I don't think I can handle any more wonderful people than I have right now.
foxflame88
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That's great to hear! Good luck!
I have had similar experiences... I've made some great friends.
vampiresscammy
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I'm on OKC, same nick, actually just about anywhere online you find "vampiresscammy" its more than likely me
haven't met anyone through OKC I didn't already know in person, so no opinions about that particular site being helpful or not, but met my hubby of heart and my late wifey online, I surely would never discount meeting someone and seeing how things progress just cause we had met online first, I personally think its pretty awesome how it puts people you would otherwise not ever have a possibility of meeting within range is kinda wonderful
haven't met anyone through OKC I didn't already know in person, so no opinions about that particular site being helpful or not, but met my hubby of heart and my late wifey online, I surely would never discount meeting someone and seeing how things progress just cause we had met online first, I personally think its pretty awesome how it puts people you would otherwise not ever have a possibility of meeting within range is kinda wonderful
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Ravenesque
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Better late than never...
I'm on OkC as well. My ID is EbonyMermaid. I met Ceoli there and made other poly friends there as well. Only one or two bad experiences with incompatible people. The positive outweighs the bad by far.
I like to engage in discussion on the Alternative Lifestyles forums there. It's stimulating and connects people who have similar views.
FL is another cool site though it is oriented around social networking more than dating (though it can be used for that purpose as well). Unlike OkC there you can choose the identities "polyamorous" and "pansexual" in FL.
~Raven~
I'm on OkC as well. My ID is EbonyMermaid. I met Ceoli there
and made other poly friends there as well. Only one or two bad experiences with incompatible people. The positive outweighs the bad by far. I like to engage in discussion on the Alternative Lifestyles forums there. It's stimulating and connects people who have similar views.
FL is another cool site though it is oriented around social networking more than dating (though it can be used for that purpose as well). Unlike OkC there you can choose the identities "polyamorous" and "pansexual" in FL.
~Raven~
CielDuMatin
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Yes I am CielDuMatin on OKC as well as here, but considering suspending it.
Joined because it was a neat way to compare notes with my prospective OSO. Then stayed because the quizzes were kind of mindless and fun.
Then started getting involved for the fora, which was nice for a while. Pretty disillusioned with it right now, though - too many drive-by trolls and hostility on there. One or two good friendly folks, but I see most of them are already here....
I'm not looking to find anyone for anything other than friends, and there seem to be better places for that online.
Joined because it was a neat way to compare notes with my prospective OSO. Then stayed because the quizzes were kind of mindless and fun.
Then started getting involved for the fora, which was nice for a while. Pretty disillusioned with it right now, though - too many drive-by trolls and hostility on there. One or two good friendly folks, but I see most of them are already here....
I'm not looking to find anyone for anything other than friends, and there seem to be better places for that online.