Out of the Basement

[azurebonds]

The remodeling has begun. I have an entire boy band of hot guys (e.g. tall, fit and attractive) in my lower floor doing construction. I was delusional to think that I could do Dawn’s apartment by myself, though I am probably spending too much on that and everything else.

Specifically, I bought 4 diamond studs. I have never owned nice jewelry beyond my ring, so that’ll be nice. I will just assume that my looseness with money will subside at the exact point that I freak out about paying it back, which I can; however, it’s not like me to be reckless with money.

Dawn and I have moved to 24/7 D/s and have rings now. That’s all I am going to say about it.

I made the odd decision of attending a church over the last couple months. They are extremely nice, but a bit conservative. They also don’t seem to mind my fairly devout atheism. I am waiting for my many lives to silently detonate together, as I believe that their denomination does not accept polyamory.

I am not really trying to deceive them. I just don’t think that it’s any of their business. Plus I am convinced that polygamy, which would be my goal, has some decent Biblical support, but I’d be open to challenges on that take.

 

[azurebonds]

The remodeling has begun. I have an entire boy band of hot guys (e.g. tall, fit and attractive) in my lower floor doing construction. I was delusional to think that I could do Dawn’s apartment by myself, though I am probably spending too much on that and everything else.

Specifically, I bought 4 diamond studs. I have never owned nice jewelry beyond my ring, so that’ll be nice. I will just assume that my looseness with money will subside at the exact point that I freak out about paying it back, which I can; however, it’s not like me to be reckless with money.

Dawn and I have moved to 24/7 D/s and have rings now. That’s all I am going to say about it.

I made the odd decision of attending a church over the last couple months. They are extremely nice, but a bit conservative. They also don’t seem to mind my fairly devout atheism. I am waiting for my many lives to silently detonate together, as I believe that their denomination does not accept polyamory.

I am not really trying to deceive them. I just don’t think that it’s any of their business. Plus I am convinced that polygamy, which would be my goal, has some decent Biblical support, but I’d be open to challenges on that take.

I think that I am doing these things because I have been so repressed by mental illness that I am allowing myself some freedom now that I am medicated and the foundational issues are being addressed. It’s uncharacteristic though and that bothers me.

 

[Magdlyn]

The remodeling has begun. I have... guys in my lower floor doing construction. I was delusional to think that I could do Dawn’s apartment by myself.

Specifically, I bought 4 diamond studs. I have never owned nice jewelry beyond my ring, so that’ll be nice. I will just assume that my looseness with money will subside at the exact point that I freak out about paying it back, which I can; however, it’s not like me to be reckless with money.

Dawn and I have moved to 24/7 D/s and have rings now. That’s all I am going to say about it.

Are the four diamond studs for your ears? Or a pair each for your wife and gf? Just curious.

You wear a "ring" besides, a wedding ring? And now a new ring to show your commitment to Dawn, as well?

I made the odd decision of attending a church over the last couple months. They are extremely nice, but a bit conservative. They also don’t seem to mind my fairly devout atheism. I am waiting for my many lives to silently detonate together, as I believe that their denomination does not accept polyamory.

I wonder why you joined a church. What do you get out of a Christian church, when you're an atheist? UU (Unitarian Universalist) churches, UCC (United Church of Christ) churches and Episcopalian churches are "welcoming" churches to the LGBTQ+ community, and accepting of differing sexual orientations.

From an Episcopalian website:

We have a legacy of inclusion, aspiring to tell and exemplify God’s love for every human being. Ordination and the offices of bishop, priest, and deacon are open to all without discrimination. Laypeople and clergy cooperate as leaders at all levels of our church. Leadership is a gift from God and can be expressed by all people in our church, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, or gender identity or expression.

We believe that God loves us all – no exceptions.

UU churches also accept Jews, Pagans, Atheists, you name it. The pastor (a lesbian) at the UU church I used to attend was as likely to quote the Beatles or Plato in a sermon as Jesus.

I am not really trying to deceive them. I just don’t think that it’s any of their business. Plus I am convinced that polygamy, which would be my goal, has some decent Biblical support, but I’d be open to challenges on that take.

Sure, in any patriarchal religion, men can basically do what they want. Traditionally in the Bible, men owned their wives and children, quite literally. They were to take good care of their possessions, because, like any Master, an ancient Hebrew's slave/chattel was of use to him, so he would ideally take care of her health and well-being so she could continue to serve him well as long as possible.

 

[azurebonds]

Are the four diamond studs for your ears? Or a pair each for your wife and gf? Just curious.

You wear a "ring" besides, a wedding ring? And now a new ring to show your commitment to Dawn, as well?

I wonder why you joined a church. What do you get out of a Christian church, when you're an atheist? UU (Unitarian Universalist) churches, UCC (United Church of Christ) churches and Episcopalian churches are "welcoming" churches to the LGBTQ+ community, and accepting of differing sexual orientations.

From an Episcopalian website:


UU churches also accept Jews, Pagans, Atheists, you name it. The pastor (a lesbian) at the UU church I used to attend was as likely to quote the Beatles or Plato in a sermon as Jesus.


Sure, in any patriarchal religion, men can basically do what they want. Traditionally in the Bible, men owned their wives and children, quite literally. They were to take good care of their possessions, because, like any Master, an ancient Hebrew's slave/chattel was of use to him, so he would ideally take care of her health and well-being so she could continue to serve him well as long as possible.

I have 7 in one ear with 2 diamonds, and 3 in the other with 2 as well. I guess that I’ve become a bit flamboyant over the last 6 months.

I wear my nicer ring in place of my wedding ring, which I got when I was broke. I also wear a ring representing me being Dawn’s dominant, which we consider a fundamental part of the relationship.

Honestly, I attend the church because they are chill and always have baked goods. I’ve always found religion fascinating and I enjoy talking to people about it. It’s kind of like a Jesus Club.

I originally attended because I wanted to see if they were sane as I liked the subsidized nature of their school for my daughter.

 

[azurebonds]

Dawn and Jess finally met.

It seemed OK. Jess’ primary concern was finding ‘meeting new people’ awkward. Dawn seemed relieved, herself.

I showed Dawn around part of the town and nearest city, there was a lot of sex, and some hanging out. It’s kind of nice to be with your best friend.

I’m happy my wife could give us this, though it does put more emotional work on her. This is not to say that the hinge doesn’t have challenges themself.

 

[azureGF]

Ian asked if I would mind sharing my thoughts on this past weekend as he didn't feel comfortable speaking for me here.

I had a fair bit of anxiety about it, partly due to meeting Jess and their daughter for the first time and partly because I had never flown before. We live about 2300 miles apart though, so it was a necessity. Thankfully the flights were largely uneventful outside of some turbulence and a rough landing getting to his city. I feel proud of myself for summoning the courage to do that alone; the old Dawn would have never been able.

He warned me that meeting Jess the first time may be awkward, as she's uncomfortable with meeting new people, but I felt like it went fine. We all went out for lunch together at their favorite restaurant on Saturday, and I expected to feel some weirdness between us, but it was actually chill and she didn't seem to mind me being there.

Their daughter really likes me and was very interested in talking to me over the weekend and showing me stuff. The three of us (Jess went home after lunch) then went to a beautiful park and they showed me all the sights. Then we took her home and went to get our ears pierced together to celebrate our 6 month anniversary (technically it's on the 8th but whatever). Getting stuck and bleeding together struck me as very romantic.

The next day was mostly ours. He took me into the large city near him and showed me all kinds of interesting places. It's a *very* different place than where I live and it was all super fascinating to me. I won't go into detail as to avoid giving too much info about his location but the visit was enough to make me 100% sure about moving out there. I feel like we'll never run out of things to do and places to explore together, which we both have been craving for a long time.

The evenings were spent hanging out with their daughter and pets while Jess was upstairs gaming, and then having naked cuddles and filthy sex downstairs in "the dungeon" (my future apartment) once she was asleep. Everything felt good and right and natural, and I am very excited about our future there together.

I feel like this weekend was a trial run to see how everyone will interact being under the same roof, and in my opinion it went really well. We're all new to poly relationships, so there were a fair amount of question marks for all of us here, but things seem to be working out as we hoped they would.

If all continues to go well, I'll be moving next spring. Can't wait to start this new chapter of our lives

 

[Tinwen]

Kink has a way of doing that, I’ve found. I think it’s the combination of what’s basically on some levels like those trust-fall exercises one sees at conferences, with sex endorphins… can be absolutely addictive, in all senses of the word.

An even less favourable view... I've wondered if receiving pain, even if consensual and arousing, then care, leads to a bit of a Stockholm syndrom.

 

[Tinwen]

Ian asked if I would mind sharing my thoughts on this past weekend as he didn't feel comfortable speaking for me here.

I had a fair bit of anxiety about it, partly due to meeting Jess and their daughter for the first time and partly because I had never flown before. We live about 2300 miles apart though, so it was a necessity. Thankfully the flights were largely uneventful outside of some turbulence and a rough landing getting to his city. I feel proud of myself for summoning the courage to do that alone; the old Dawn would have never been able.

He warned me that meeting Jess the first time may be awkward, as she's uncomfortable with meeting new people, but I felt like it went fine. We all went out for lunch together at their favorite restaurant on Saturday, and I expected to feel some weirdness between us, but it was actually chill and she didn't seem to mind me being there.

Their daughter really likes me and was very interested in talking to me over the weekend and showing me stuff. The three of us (Jess went home after lunch) then went to a beautiful park and they showed me all the sights. Then we took her home and went to get our ears pierced together to celebrate our 6 month anniversary (technically it's on the 8th but whatever). Getting stuck and bleeding together struck me as very romantic.

The next day was mostly ours. He took me into the large city near him and showed me all kinds of interesting places. It's a *very* different place than where I live and it was all super fascinating to me. I won't go into detail as to avoid giving too much info about his location but the visit was enough to make me 100% sure about moving out there. I feel like we'll never run out of things to do and places to explore together, which we both have been craving for a long time.

The evenings were spent hanging out with their daughter and pets while Jess was upstairs gaming, and then having naked cuddles and filthy sex downstairs in "the dungeon" (my future apartment) once she was asleep. Everything felt good and right and natural, and I am very excited about our future there together.

I feel like this weekend was a trial run to see how everyone will interact being under the same roof, and in my opinion it went really well. We're all new to poly relationships, so there were a fair amount of question marks for all of us here, but things seem to be working out as we hoped they would.

If all continues to go well, I'll be moving next spring. Can't wait to start this new chapter of our lives

Im glad the weekend went well

 

[azurebonds]

An even less favourable view... I've wondered if receiving pain, even if consensual and arousing, then care, leads to a bit of a Stockholm syndrom.

I only keep her caged on Saturdays.

Seriously though, I think that it requires a great deal of trust on the part of the sub to give control to another person. It’s really an elaborate trust exercise mixed with foreplay. She is receiving pain, psychological in my case, but it’s to push up against her boundaries without violating them. It’s therapeutic in a way. Its foundation is consent and trust, which is an aphrodisiac.

I’ve been asked to keep the D/s conversation to a minimum, but I am answering in good faith here.

 

[Tinwen]

I only keep her caged on Saturdays.

Seriously though, I think that it requires a great deal of trust on the part of the sub to give control to another person. It’s really an elaborate trust exercise mixed with foreplay. She is receiving pain, psychological in my case, but it’s to push up against her boundaries without violating them. It’s therapeutic in a way. Its foundation is consent and trust, which is an aphrodisiac.

I’ve been asked to keep the D/s conversation to a minimum, but I am answering in good faith here.

Asked by whom? By a forum mod? That's actually news to me, but I can see not wanting to derail threads from their main topic.

I did my fair share of DS discussions on the forum... Although there may be more appropriate places for "theory".

Any case, I believe since this is your blog, you can talk anything you want as much as you want here.

 

[Evie]

Mod note:
Talking about it is one thing, exhibiting it here is another. Tinwen, Azure was asked to not use this space to engage in overt D/s interactions with Dawn.

 

[azurebonds]

Mod note:
Talking about it is one thing, exhibiting it here is another. Tinwen, Azure was asked to not use this space to engage in overt D/s interactions with Dawn.

Oh, that’s a different interpretation than I had. If that’s the case, then some updates.

We’ve setup a couple statuettes to represent consent for D/s activities. They are turned forward or backward depending on said consent.

We have a pair of matching rings that represent our commitment to each other as dom and sub.

We also got rook piercings together on the respective sides, both because getting pierced together felt significant and because they matched our rings.

I also proposed to Dawn.

 

[Tinwen]

Congratulations!!! That is... did she say Yes?

Glad I accidentally helped to clean up some misundertanding, and thank you Evie.

 

[azureGF]

Congratulations!!! That is... did she say Yes?

Glad I accidentally helped to clean up some misundertanding, and thank you Evie.

I did

 

[azurebonds]

Congratulations!!! That is... did she say Yes?

Glad I accidentally helped to clean up some misundertanding, and thank you Evie.

She said, “Yes.”

Now, the question is how to go about it considering that I already have one wife. I know we’ll work it out, likely through a corporation, but there are a whole bunch of things to iron out.

 

[azurebonds]

Jess, Dawn and I reconfirmed that we are going forward with the April cross country move.

Jess told me that she does not foresee us breaking up. Should we find that we are incompatible, we have agreed to coparent our daughter together in the same house.

Jess has indicated that she would like to explore her newly discovered bisexual side. It’s unclear, but I think she would want a separate partner. This may raise challenges with our current setup, as both Dawn and I want to avoid the possibility of STD risk by keeping the system closed. I am thinking that Jess is not as onboard with that as she has indicated.

Dawn and I have solidified our positions as sub and dom, respectively.

The move has begun a bit early. Today, her orange tabby cat made the journey with me to his new home.

I’m thinking that we’ll probably mostly be parallel poly, with Jess and my relationship nearly separate from mine with Dawn. This way, everything that we currently have can stay close to the same. I do see some overlap in certain areas like with my daughter and Dawn though.

I believe in one of these threads it was suggested that I should have a plan for having another guardian in my daughter’s life. I think that this is wise. I would think that I should be deferred to in parenting decisions, but maybe expectations should be made plain.

Honestly, I don’t have a good model for this, but I think that it would be similar to having a stepmother.

 

[Evie]

How come that level of parallel when you're all actually under one roof, regardless of the two separate suites? Sure, there's no need for daily interactions, but how on earth are they not going to be running into each other in the driveway (so to speak) fairly regularly? Will this be a source of tension?

 

[azureGF]

How come that level of parallel when you're all actually under one roof, regardless of the two separate suites? Sure, there's no need for daily interactions, but how on earth are they not going to be running into each other in the driveway (so to speak) fairly regularly? Will this be a source of tension?

Only speaking for myself of course, but there's no tension about running into her or anything like that. She tends to be gaming upstairs the majority of the day and night, when she doesn't have their daughter. That's kind of just how they co-parent - they split it into shifts. I'll usually be with Ian and their daughter during his times, when I'm not working of course. So things will be pretty separate anyways, regardless of how we label it.

 

[Evie]

Sweet, glad to hear that there's no actual not liking each other that makes it parallel.