Fairly New, and Getting my footing so to speak...
My name is Brandi, and I am from Indiana. I am in a long term relationship of 15 years with my primary.
We decided to open our relationship around 3 years ago, and after a lot of discussion, realized that just sleeping with other people was not realistic for us. So, we decided to explore polyamory.
My partner had at that time only ever been with me. This was really what inspired us to take this path to begin with. I had, and have no issues with him having other partners. When we began this journey, however, I really had no intentions of taking on new partners.
That being said, last year I was reunited with an old friend/lover that I hadn't seen in over 16 years. The first night we reunited, things got pretty intense. After that night though, we only talked on the phone, and through texts. He ended up back with a very recent ex of his, and I was pretty upset about it.
10 months later he showed up again, saying he couldn't be without me, and here we are.
My primary is amazing and is handling this roller coaster amazingly well for our first real experience with polyamory. I however am having a lot of insecurities bloom.
I'm really struggling with if this is a sustainable situation, and if I am being realistic with how i feel for my new partner vs. how he feels for me. He is extremely busy, works two jobs, and therefore can only spend time with me once every two weeks or so.
I know that these are emotions I will have to deal with, but I guess I'm just looking for advice on how anyone else handles insecurities. I am not having jealousy issues, just worried that maybe all of this is too much for my new partner, and that he will lose interest (even though he isn't doing anything to make me feel that way).
Thanks for reading and for any advice. So glad I found a place where I can freely talk about these issues.