I am in a poly triad with me at the point of the V with two men (I am a woman), one to whom I am married (E), the other to whom I will be handfasted later this year (G). My second partner (G) is someone with whom I have had a friendship for some time- we've known each other somewhere around 6 years and been close the past few. Before this, the three of us were spending a considerable amount of time together at the house- suppers after work, movie nights that turned into staying over, staying over due to bad roads...the friendship was very close before G and I agreed to step into this with the blessing of E. The triad is fragile at the moment due to some issues E is having (not just in relation to the relationship- mental health struggles, too). We have been at this for 20 weeks as of this Sunday. We are really trying to figure out the hard stuff we are going through, but it is feeling a bit grim at the moment. I honestly believe that things can be worked through and we have had some long conversations that are inching the three of us forward. Sexual incompatibility with E is a big part of our struggles. We are an odd sort of poly, I admit, and I know that makes it harder to find people to relate to.
This is our first poly relationship. We are all three committed to polyfidelity (we define this as being committed to our family as a whole, but we're probably using the word wrong). E wants more children (my first partner and I have 2, but we are of the mind that in the family, all children are everyone's children). G is unsure of it. I am 32, E is 34, G is 23.