Personal Summaries

I have been married for 8 years. I am in my mid 30s and she is in her late 20s. We are happy and love each other and have our lifestyle. I have accepted her lifestyle and her "needs" and I turned it into my lifestyle and needs. I guess the most unique thing we have is my devotion and worship of her. She utterly turns me on, so I have focused all my sexual energy to her well being and to my devotion to her. She and I have created a really unique, sexually and spiritually fulfilling dynamic. So she is my goddess, my queen. I am dutiful to her, although she does alot also.... I keep up her wardrobe (organize and clean), do laundry, her car... I clean the house and whatever I can do to serve. When she comes home I greet her and help her take her shoes off, and I sometimes wash her feet (at her direction, it really does not take long like less than 5 minutes) and offer socks or house shoes. I do have a foot fetish so she knows how to drive that circuitry in me, but also her whole body does the same to me. Honestly she is my fetish, not just her feet. Her happiness is my pleasure. I have a place in our home that has a bit of a shrine to her. I am aware that it is weird.... I do not know where I got this from but it is my "kink". I keep my shrine locked up so my mom or her mom won't see it....or anyone else. She has access to it, and at first she thought it was weird. What is my shrine? It's pictures of her, and photo albums .... it's my porn collection of her, but there is no sex pictures just nudes. I update it with pictures of her, and she often goes looks and sometimes takes pictures out that she does not like. No there are not all nudes, alot of the sexy pictures are from her instagram. LOL. It's fun. I think she loves my devotion. Anyhow that's my story. Cheers everyone.
 
As a begginers in a polyamory relationship, we actually are living exactly what is described in an article found online (Triad or V - What's More Complicated? by Laura Boyle). As a long term couple, we had some threesome experiences. But those were "experiences," and as we are both bisexual, we had the idea that a triad should be what fit us.

After many years of posting ads on some pages, one day it just happened that he met her. In the months that followed, she just became interesting as a person, and he introduced her to her. In the next few months, things just developed, there were some strange and even embarrassing situations, and in one moment, as a couple, we decided to come out and ask her if she was interested. She was not so surprised; she even thought about that as a possibility, and the decision was: "Let's think about it.".

After that, we had an interesting 2 week vacation where she joined the family (as a friend), and after that, she said yes. So now we are in a triad; we live separately, keep alive the contact and see each other when there are options to do that. Things sometimes are really complicated, we live where that kind of relationship is not accepted, so formally we are friends ... Regardless of everything, we are willing to have this and to find the way through. So for now, let's go step by step.
 
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pandio_si said:
As a begginers in a polyamory relationship, we actually are living exactly what is described in an article found online (Triad or V - What's More Complicated? by Laura Boyle). As a long term couple, we had some threesome experiences. But those were "experiences," and as we are both bisexual, we had the idea that a triad should be what fit us.

After many years of posting ads on some pages, one day it just happened that he met her. In the months that followed, she just became interesting as a person, and he introduced her to her. In the next few months, things just developed, there were some strange and even embarrassing situations, and in one moment, as a couple, we decided to come out and ask her if she was interested. She was not so surprised; she even thought about that as a possibility, and the decision was: "Let's think about it.".

After that, we had an interesting 2 week vacation where she joined the family (as a friend), and after that, she said yes. So now we are in a triad; we live separately, keep alive the contact and see each other when there are options to do that. Things sometimes are really complicated, we live where that kind of relationship is not accepted, so formally we are friends ... Regardless of everything, we are willing to have this and to find the way through. So for now, let's go step by step.
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I looked up the article:

www.readyforpolyamory.com

Triad or V - What's More Complicated?

I get a lot of people new to polyamory insisting that they must date together, or meet people together, because it "will be less complicated." I see this in comments on social media, on dating app profiles, on couple's profiles on social media (that black and red one that starts with an F...
www.readyforpolyamory.com www.readyforpolyamory.com
 
Hi. My wife and I have been together for 20 years and have recently formalised becoming polyamorous. We're in the UK. I'm getting my head around this new way of living, listening to podcasts, etc. My wife has recently started dating a female friend, so I'm going through what I think is the typical waves of "it's ok" to "OMG is it over for us?" to "am I good enough?" and everything in-between. I'm looking to join a community to go help me unwire my mono hardcoding.

BTW I'm male, 44. She's 38 years old. We have 3 kids and have what I would class as a very solid relationship (we're best friends). I don't know the girlfriend very well but so far all of the advice tells me that I should get to know the girlfriend and build a relationship with her.
 
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Transplanted to Edmonton where I met a lot of amazing people including my husband and decided to stay.

Poly, or even just co-op living, has been my internal ideal since I was a child. I've lived the vanilla marriage lifestyle for 5 years but I'm ready to try the scary stuff that feels more true to my heart.

After a couple years of talking about it, hubs and I tried poly with good friends that have been partial poly for years. A few months of complicated talks, feelings, and general life stuff, then the poly dynamic fell apart. I'm still working on retaining the friendships and figuring out what went wrong.

Hubs and I are still interested in poly, but we're going to take it slow and investigate/lurk a bit in the community.
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Greetings from Edmonton!
 
Hi,

We perhaps have an unusual history. I had a relationship with my live-in girlfriend for a number of months before discovering she had also been sleeping with my son when I was not around. (My son is an adult and is on autistic spectrum.)

We live in the UK.

Long story short, we ended up in a V-triad with my girlfriend as hinge, each of us spending time alone with her, as well as together. But just to be clear, there never has been nor will ever be any incest involved between us. We are also both heterosexual.

We were happy together for over a year but, unfortunately, our hinge was killed in a road accident, so my son and I have been alone since then.
We are just starting to get over the loss and my son is pushing me to find someone new. He seems particularly keen on triad relationships.
 
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My name is not Nick , its a pseudo, I'm from Mauritius , and not so look like the real Mauritius , lets say real because i'm kinda the old people , after Indian have started to colonised Mauritius by British' immigration the face of Mauritius have been change and so the mentality , I'm a spiritual person , and open, most here are not , they have their religion their law of how to be in the society according to their belief ,
kinda single I am spiritual I am not bisexual but i'm like if i have a girlfriend I will love her , for me love and sex is something separate , I can love someone and accept he have sexual desire to another guy or girls , love is somethjing to be share its not a selfish things I want to live a life so that we can share love to everyone I am 41 but i look like a 31 guy , still in very good health no smoke not so much in alcohol , casual drink. Guitar Teacher , into rock n roll
 
I'm Blain. It's my kink name, but I also use it in ENM settings.

I don't like to think I had trauma as a kid, but I was emotionally neglected by my workaholic father, my chronically depressed mother, and I had health issues as a young child. That fostered a variety of kinks and I developed as an extreme experimentalist kinkster. I married young, right out of college. At one point a few years ago, my friends in an open marriage came out about it. Eventually, they invited us to check out the scene at a lifestyle club, mostly expecting us to observe. I got interested and wanted to dive in. My wife doesn't, but she's willing to abolish our old agreements and see what we can rebuild together. It will be a process since we still love each other deeply, are really stubborn about finding a way forward together, and I adore her for being so stubborn.

Since then, I've been educating myself on the ENM world and have a special place in my heart for poly as a big fan of deep platonic relationships. I have always wondered what could come of ethically growing those sorts of relationships beyond the traditional mono-normative boundaries. I'm giving her time, feeding her needs, and valuing our relationship, because I can be a valid person in this new identity and still be saturated at one relationship.
 
I am Rae. I am in NZ. I am 52 married to 49yr old M (Gee). We discussed opening marriage to meet unmet sexual needs of Gee. This opened up marriage and can of worms of issues. Initially looked at opening up with casual sex, flings, happy endings, lap dances, paid experiences....all of which have been fine. Gee now identifies as wanting/needing a more poly situation. Gee has a wide circle of poly-accepting friends. My friends are very vanilla and would not be open to this discussion at all, so I have come here to try and get a well-balanced poly perspective. We're also seeing individual and couple's counsellors.

We have a complicated parenting situation and years of anxious/avoidant interactions which we are only just learning to identify and address.
Read and prepared with lots of reading/podcasts, etc., but I always had the lens of the first scenario (casual sex, etc.) and struggling lot more with the more poly-style needs.

I am committed to doing work on myself and trying hard to navigate through this, all while owning my part in things, but feeling very vulnerable that we may have to say goodbye to our marriage of almost 31 years and look at separation.
 
Im Ryan, 29 married 7 years to my best friend also 29 and we want to explore polyamory. We’re totally fine with the concept of it and I want to explore what I like/dislike in people and hope to gain good relationships through this experience if I ever leave it. I’m straight she’s bisexual. Any red flags I should be aware of besides the ones I already know?
 
Depends what you already know? Like, if you go looking for someone to share, you're likely to get scammed.
 
Ryan94$ said:
I'm Ryan, 29, married 7 years to my best friend, also 29. We want to explore polyamory. We’re totally fine with the concept of it. I want to explore what I like/dislike in people and hope to gain good relationships through this experience, if I ever leave it. I’m straight, she’s bisexual. Any red flags I should be aware of besides the ones I already know?
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If you read all the books and articles and listen to the podcast linked here, you should be pretty well covered. :)

 
Hi, my name is Rebecca, but I go by Becca. I have been bisexual-poly since I was 16, and I am 40 now. I am in Kentucky. I have had more experience with women than men in my lifetime. I tend to lean more towards women romantically and sexually, so I'm not really sure what label to put on my sexuality. I am also autistic.

I was married to a man, but we got divorced a year ago. I have two adult children who live out of state from me.

I am currently in a relationship with someone who is mono, but he knows I am poly and is good with it. There is actually no intimacy in my current relationship, because he is still hung up on his ex-wife mentally, and I have agree to wait. It has been five months since we first started dating and I am beginning to wonder if we ever will reach that point.

I am looking for a girlfriend, and I am open to messages. I am short lol, 4'11", and Puerto Rican. I am quiet, until you get to know me, and a little on the shy side. I'm a wedding officiant, a pagan and a witch. I'm not sure what else to write here lol.
 
Arian
He/they/xi
I am ambiamorous (I think)
Panace
Never been in a relationship
I am mostly here to ask questions and figure out if I really am poly/ambi
 
Hi
Im Mel
30something from Philly but currently in SoCal for 5 years now. I love creating art, painting, drawing, cooking, baking, films, books, nature, history, science, sarcastic wit, deep thoughtful questions, and listening to people talk about their dreams (both their goals and the sleep induced kind)

Currently in a V with Jesse (my partner of 13 years) and Jo (meta and former partner 9 years)
This is a totally weird and new dynamic thats got me feeling sad but also excited to get back in touch with what makes me happy and not feel so lonely anymore.

What was your "win" -big or small- last week?

Mine was meeting the newest generation of red finches on my balcony, the baby birds were cute! And I was able to meditate for 10 minutes without feeling like exploding ✨️
 
Hello lovely humans,

I am Steve or Stephen, I’m 27 from London and I’m polyamorous.

I live with my nesting partner (together for 10 years in August) and our 3 year old daughter. I have another partner with whom I am serious and in love with and we’ve been in a (relatively) long distance relationship with for a year in August.

I also have many other connections- some have being going for years, some for months and some comets too.

Been doing poly for just over 5 years now but still very much learning all the time.
 
I have been in an open relationship with my boyfriend for 4 years. The relationship has been open since the beginning, but we have just decided to get serious about ethical non-monogamy and researching polyamory.

This is my first official relationship. We decided to make it open just because of where we were at in life when we met - he had just gotten out of a long monogamous relationship and wanted to try some new things, and I hadn't ever explored this aspect of my life and wanted the freedom to explore it as thoroughly as I choose. This is new to both of us, neither of us has been in a non-monogamous relationship before this although we had been intrigued before.
 
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