Okay, so the choices Doomed makes that I question.
1- He has no issues becoming involved in a situation where he is assisting someone cheat. There are caveats. Like, only if he perceives the relationship as bound to end/extremely unhealthy/abusive/etc. But still. In my opinion, that's just purposefully hurting people when the cheating is discovered. Both the person being cheated on and the person actively cheating are emotionally hurt by the activity and it can easily lead to physical escalation in an abusive situation. So, not my thing.
2- He started fooling around with a friend of mine. In itself not an issue, but the dynamic between my friend and I started to change. Instead of being her normal supportive, objective self when it comes to giving me advice/support (much like I try to be for her as well), she started to be very anti-Doomed and me. Which is more of an issue between her and I, and I brought it up to her but nothing changed. The situation became uncomfortable for me, so I decided to end the physical aspect with Doomed versus losing a friend. Worth it.
3- We're in vastly different places in life. He drinks frequently and smokes a ton of weed. Which is fine, but that means he's not really a family-friendly kind of person very often. And I am very much a family-focused kind of gal. We were starting to hang out on a weekly basis, which just isn't doable with my other relationships and work schedule UNLESS I can occasionally include my kid.
So, I told him all of that. Well, he already knew about 1 so I just had to let him know 2 and 3. He was confused but understanding. Unfortunately, the dynamic between my friend and I is still strained, because she is pretty much refusing to admit that her friendship/whatever with Doomed is clouding her opinion on what I should do with him. Which is odd since WE'RE ALL POLY! lol Oh, well.
Hubby and I had a day date recently, but it was unfortunately after I had worked a long shift overnight and had not slept. I also hadn't showered AND we ended up spending a lot more time running around shopping and such than expected so it didn't end in the loud, kid's not home sex that Hubby was hoping for. Hopefully next time...
Boy is starting to date again. Kind of. He's starting to TRY to date again but is pretty lazy about it in general. I had a mild freak out in my head when he planned his first date but got over it pretty quickly. I know he loves me. I know he is willing to prioritize my funky schedule over scheduling anything with someone new. I know he wants to be a part of this family in whatever way he can be with the distance between us. I also know that he appreciates my effort in making sure we have time together and that he loves how dedicated I am in making his work functions fit into my life. He had so much fun taking Little Girl to his company Christmas thing and getting to be the first one to help her play arcade games and such. It was adorable, and our relationship that includes years of background, family activities, and emotional support/growth together isn't going to be replaced by someone new. I know that. Sometimes I need to remind myself to battle the insecurities, though.
Nothing else is really new in life. We're doing a Christmas activity with Boy tonight then Christmas at his house with his roommates Saturday. He'll come down Christmas Eve so he can be here Christmas morning, too. Hubby is excited about all the events, as am I. I wish I didn't have to work, but holiday pay will be awesome, right? And I'll know everyone is together, which always makes me feel loved. Seriously, guys. It's ridiculous how happy I am when we're all just together. Don't even have to do anything special. Just having dinner or chatting. That's pretty much all that's going on around here these days. Once or twice a month solo dates and lots of family time.