The butterfly diaries

Thanks Mags! Unfortunately my lease has a no candles clause đŸ™ƒ
So does mine, but I ignore it. haha I light a scented candle probably three days a week.
I wish I had other people to talk about these things on a really deep level. Well, besides Adam and Puck. But the only other person I know well enough to hang out with has told me she was always just in the community for the social. Like, they didn't "practice" paganism, haven't done any initiatory work. I really want to be working with initiates (not so much in the Gardnerian or Alexandrian traditions, but I'm curious what else people are doing.)
I've been a practicing pagan for about 30 years. I don't make a big deal out of any of the holidays, except Yule. I've spoken about our wonderful Yules on here before. I can write it again, out if you'd like.

Of course, Halloween/Samhain is an established secular tradition, so I just add in a few extra pagan touches, or maybe do everything more mindfully. I often put on some witchy garb. I decorate quite a bit, take photos of my harvest, think about my beloved dead (my mom and sister, mostly). And we get a pretty good turn-out of trick or treaters in our neighborhood, which is so much fun. A couple times, my fam and I have gone to this particularly gorgeous historic cemetery near Boston (Mt Auburn Cemetery, established 1830), wearing our best goth witchy garb, and taken photos. Our fall colors are spectacular in New England. The cemetery was the first of its kind, a big park-like one, with thousands of neo-Gothic Regency and Victorian-era monuments and crypts, ponds, specimen trees like weeping willows, cherries and beeches, (flowers in spring and summer), two chapels, statuary galore, wildlife (eagles, white squirrels, skunks, coyotes, frogs), rolling terrain, a "castle" tower on a hill with amazing views of Boston to the East, and the mountains to the West, grave sites of famous Bostonians (scientists, religious figures, Harvard luminaries), etc. So wonderfully spooky.

One year for Beltane, for my kids and our neighbor/friend across the street, who turned out to be pagan, I baked a vanilla cake, decorated with floral motifs, and made a "Maypole" for it with a straw and ribbons. And before cutting it, I poured cream over the pole. (Symbolizing sex, yes. Sadly, my annoying ex-h was all inappropriate and yelled out, "Ew, jizz!" Reason #387 why I divorced him. I mean, what an example to set for the kids [who were tweens and teens] about the sacredness of sex.)

My polycule, my son, and a few friends do "Friendsgiving" every year before our official US Thanksgiving, so that serves as our cozy harvest festival.

Ostara and Easter, pretty easy, as the egg coloring, dressing up, candy hunts and decorations are pagan. I even equate the whole Jesus thing with the 1000 dying and rising gods, symbolizing the spring, in cultures worldwide. I used to read the story of Persephone and Hades to the kids sometimes, from one of my pagan ritual books.

A few years back, Aries and I went to a Scandinavian "Midsommer" festival in a nearby city. It was so great. This past June 21 I officiated at the gay handfasting of two of my bffs. They wanted to do it up pagan style, so we created a sacred space, and all that jazz.
 
My landlord lives upstairs, so I think I'd be pinged on the candles thing pretty quickly :-(

Adam and I are getting close to listing our house. His brother is there at the moment helping him out with finishing touches - it sounds like a LOT, but I'm really glad they are doing it together. As for me, I'm swamped at work and will be for a while longer - there will be some (more) late nights over this next week.

Puck is still in Italy with Iris. He had a terrible bout of food poisoning, but has finally started being able to enjoy himself again. I'm not 100% sure when he's home because I'm pretty sure he said he'd put the wrong dates on the shared calendar but then forgot to update them. I'm missing seeing him, but we are texting daily, so that's a lovely change from previous trips.
 
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Thank gods our landlord and landlady (married couple) live two towns away. haha
 
Five weeks is the goal. Five weeks today until Puck is back here for the next round of job hunting. We'll only have about three weeks to ourselves before Adam moves to where I live, too. Long distance is hard, but both of them "suddenly" converging on me is going to very much be its own challenge! Okay, sure, it's not sudden, it's been quite long planned, but the timing still feels like 0 to 100 in a pretty short time span. It wasn't actually meant to be like this, but the delays with getting Adam and my house on the market have been endless (and no, it's still not actually listed). I'm having to refinance so we can afford to walk away before a sale, a process that I started today. Good thing the OCR came down yet again.

I have two weeks of work left for the year and I cannot wait for it to be over. I love my job, and I'm definitely less burnt out than I used to get, but I'm a bit sick of it just at the moment. There's still a lot to do and more complex issues going on, so much right now I even hid in the bathroom and cried about it today. First time all year. But it will all come together this week, it has to.

Puck is struggling, too, with being back in a place that no longer fits him. Years ago, when I started learning about spiritual alchemy, one of the fundamental tenets is that as you evolve spiritually the things which no longer serve you and your continued growth, fall away. And I'm watching exactly that happen with Puck. It's a painful process for him, and it's not one I feel I can particularly help with as it's an extremely personal journey. My own journey is in a different place and I'm still fighting it lol. That's okay, I'll lose haha, and my journey will continue, too.
 
TGIF! I got an early finish, but I also got a little bit of personal stuff done before I left work - I've contacted a conveyancing lawyer, yay! Even better, he's dealt with the thing that is our particular legal problem, before. I let the real estate agent know who we're going with

I have two big things left on my work to-do list, and still some test marking next week, but I'll get it done. I observed a colleague teach this morning and realised I'm actually pretty damn good at my job. And now I'm chilled out at home contemplating what dinner will be and browsing rental properties. Having a cat makes life tricky, but there's no way we're rehoming her. My biggest fear is that she won't appreciate the move and take off - I think that's how we got her - but she's an old lady now so hopefully she'll just settle in. I need to find somewhere that either has a cat door or I can put one in as she's used to being able to come and go as she pleases. And I need to check my current board agreement to find out how much notice I need to give here, and let my landlord know that I need a reference. This place has been amazing for two years. I've been so, so lucky. I think tomorrow I'll even start a bit of a deep clean in the communal areas. My landlord just wandered in so I let him know that formal notice would be coming up soon for a mid January departure.

Today, Puck has been celebrating Thanksgiving, and Adam has been doing roof repairs with his brother. The brother is being amazing right now, I'm so grateful for him.

Soon, soon my life will be absolutely tipped upside down, and I'm looking forward to it.
 
  • Tomorrow is my last day of the work year, at least formally. It's the last day of kids, and I have NO responsibilities other than show up. Well, that and the paperwork that is due, but that's just paper, not people.
  • Today, I bit the bullet and applied for a place to rent for Adam and me next year. It's all gone smoothly and the landlord has said she's drawing up the contract and will email it to me. There are some compromises (not the easiest access, no dishwasher), but it's a good price and I can sustain it, albeit tightly, if for any reason Adam can't work.
  • I also confirmed our mortgage restructure. That should happen by next week. It's going to an interest only option but on a floating rate, so can pay down more if I can.
  • On Friday, I'll go visit Adam. He'll come to my city for Xmas, or at least a little of it. I think he's working on the 26th.
  • I am house sitting from the 27th to the 13th.
  • Puck arrives on the 31st. This is largely why I got the house sit as Puck can't stay at my current place.
  • I move into my new place on the 9th. Yes, there's a few days overlap between my current room, the house sit, and the new place, but it works for me as I manage the logistics of getting things moved and power connected etc.. Puck will help me move and stay with me until Adam arrives, then he'll get a place of his own. He may have to go spend some time in another city for interviews by then, fingers crossed. He really just needs a job to get residency.
  • I'm toast. My phone says I've walked nearly 13,000 steps today and for me, that's a lot. But by getting this place, it makes the rest of my week so much easier because I won't be out looking for a rental.
 
Well, I made it. There's only one outstanding job and it's the size of project that I both have and need time to do without distraction. My fridge has an absurd amount of chocolate from my students in it right now so I told my flatmate to help himself even if he needs it for regifting at his work. I also let him know I'm leaving in a month. My new landlord added a pet bond, sigh. Oh well. Just so long as she sends through the contract in the next couple of days.

I ditched the staff lunch today (luckily no messages querying my absence) as my anxiety was OTT - which is pissing me off because I haven't suffered from this to this extent ever before. I have a thyroid scan tomorrow, I'm almost hoping they'll find something so this shit can be explained and treated. Although the most likely explanation is my ADHD meds - the problem is that it's unpredictable. Some days, not a problem, other days, need to mask it up the wahzoo, and a couple of times, be honest and do what needs to be done in the moment. I can't leave a class like I could leave a semi-social event today, so I've been honest with my students (because I've had them for two years in a row) and said, "I'm dealing with anxiety today so that means I'm going to speak in a quieter voice as that helps me regulate my nervous system." Damn the 2020s has its upsides for teaching. It was the one and only time that I've had to do that (maybe a month ago) and they totally respected it and were super quiet whenever I called them to attention. This is what "building relationships" is about in a classroom, but it takes time.

I digress. Other than absurd amounts of chocolate, one set of parents gave me movie vouchers ($50), which was just WOW. I've set an alarm to remind me to get my ass out of my house and to the movies tomorrow because I do actually want to see Wicked: For Good and this will give me the impetus to do it. It's actually what I need during the holidays as without the routine of school I do risk bedrotting, even in Summer. I have a "moving" list, but I also need a "fun stuff" list so I can enjoy myself. Of course, I'm planning on visiting Adam this weekend, and I'm not sure for how long, so that will occupy my time with the things that I can do around the house to make it ready to list. It feels like it's been on the cusp of ready for far too long. And given our proximity to Xmas, I doubt it will be ready until the new year. Sigh.

But I will ensure that I carve out my own holiday time. I need it. All teachers need this. The chance to rebalance after we pour ourselves into our students and their outcomes - academic, co-curricular and social (because god knows they need assistance with that most days, too). And their families.

Our awards ceremony was today. When one of the awards from my group was announced I noticed a stir among a few parents that were sitting near me. As a teacher group, we'd given it to a child whose parents weren't always...forthcoming in their presence. The award wasn't because of that, obviously, but because they are a great kid. But from the looks on the faces, I don't think that the reactive parents were theirs (no big smiles) but I suspect that the parents that were in attendance were in a parent friend-group with them and a little bit gaspy that the parent of the child was missing out on this moment (it wouldn't be the first time the parent hasn't bothered to show up for that child...). I noticed a photo being taken, I suspect to be forwarded to said absent parents. I hope those absent parents awake to the idea that their younger child is just as fucking great as the oldest one (who cleaned up at the Senior prizegiving) because I strongly suspect that the younger child is in a bit of a shadow at home.

So, my time is now largely my own for 6 weeks - and I'll be sharing it with Adam and Puck and my parents and I have a cousin meetup in early January, and I want to catch up with some friends before Xmas, but mostly I want to work on my Southern Hemisphere Wheel of the Year and associated metaphysical systems so I can begin to share it next year.
 
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Awwww, I just got such a lovely email from the Movie Voucher parent. They said that they have been so happy that [child] got me as their teacher for the first two years of our high schooling (5 year high school over here). I had sent a reply saying this (name redacted, obvs.) and they said it was an inspiring message and they would print it off and stick it on the fridge!!!!! OMG. I can't even.

"Child, you absolutely earned your [exam] result. You're smart and insightful and ask the best questions. I hope you enjoy your [subject] class next year and remember, when you lock in, there's absolutely nothing you can't succeed at. I know the [symbolic subject content] can seem dumb and pointless sometimes, but you just don't know where life will take you. Keep as many future doors open as you possibly can, and remember, good luck usually looks a lot like hard work. But success builds success, and you succeeded in the [exam] this year, so make sure you succeed in every opportunity you possibly can next year and beyond so you have many, many choices available as you get older."

We can't reach everyone. We just can't. So I'll take the wins where I can.
 
And because NZ is a village, Adam actually knows the Movie Voucher mother, which is something we just realised now. They went to uni together, in the South Island. VILLAGE.
 
Evie, thank you for the end of year stories. I have been directly and indirectly involved in education my entire career. Most of my friends and acquaintances are too.

You are clearly a inspiration to your students and probably their parents too.

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Whooot, ultrasound today and I'm not imagining things đŸ˜€ The tech was like, "yep, I can see what you're feeling," and, "because it's nearing Xmas the results could take more like four days rather than two to get to your GP." Sweet, if there's no urgency it can't be anything too bad hehe. Techs know, even if they aren't allowed to say. I probably have some underlying infection that is just making my lymph node do some work. Odd it's just one, but then the body is strange.

Mortgage restructure is underway today. Oddly, I can't see the main part of it on my banking yet, but I'm sure they won't lose $187K in their system lol. I also signed the contract and paid the move in costs for Adam and my new place, even though the move in date is a month away, but at least it's secured!

Oh, and I went to the movies yesterday because it was the first day of the holidays and I had those movie vouchers and OF COURSE two of my students were seated effectively next to me. At least there was one whole couch between us.

I'm delaying visiting Adam as he's sick and I don't want to catch it.

I've been fascinated by looking at some of my jewellery under the macro camera on my phone today. I have learned that a bracelet I thought was silver is actually 14ct white gold. And I found the maker of a ring that I believe my great grandmother bought for herself with her first paycheck. It would have been the Pandora of its day, but I love it. Elves, not dwarves. (Art nouveau, not art deco). I can't find anything similar for sale, so I can't gauge a value, but I wouldn't sell it regardless, obviously. I believe that that great grandmother was a bit of a rebel, marrying well below her class as far as I can tell. Or perhaps her husband used a completely fake ID. I can't find anything about his parentage on Ancestry.

I have an unknown grandparent I'm very curious about - blood, not adoptive family, but he was also not my bio grandmother's husband. Apparently she confessed later in life. He had his own wife, but I'm not sure of timelines, so goodness knows. Perhaps he was just a rogue. Perhaps they were a torrid affair. I'll never know as my bio grandmother died around 2009ish and if she told my bio dad much, it hasn't been passed on to me. I'm tempted to do a DNA test and try to locate someone from his legal family to see what they know about him. Ancestry says his grandfather was the immigrant, a steam engine fireman and driver from Russia.

And 20 mins of internet sleuthing and I may have found a distant cousin. Let's see if he messages me back. He's internet findable because he's sorta rich, so he probably won't lol.
 
That's so exciting about the jewelry! :)
 
Yesterday, my landlord asked to photograph my room for listing it for rent again. I don't know why he isn't using the pics he had when he listed it two years ago when I took it, but whatever. Except it's not whatever, because I don't want my personal belongings photographed, so I went and got boxes etc. and I've largely packed up. That's going to make January easier, but it makes this next month a bit weird, although I'm probably going to go visit Adam tomorrow for a few days, and the house sit begins on the 27th. But I really wasn't expecting to be depersonalising my room so soon and it hit me in the feels. I was talking with Puck when the landlord came looking for me - camera in hand! - and I was like, "no, you can take them tomorrow," but then Puck saw me really struggling with the abruptness of the realisation. I ended up going and getting some packing stuff last night and got it done in under 2 hours, because I don't have a lot that needs boxing.

Puck and I talked about it again this morning, and what's actually behind it. It's very much a sense of loss of autonomy - that I'll be sharing space in a way I haven't for ages - except for when he was here - and as much as he has told me he found that 'easy' and 'graceful', personally, I struggled. It was more work than I generally put into being home alone. Shared cooking and meals, spending time together in the lounge, things that seem normal - except they aren't for me anymore. Hell, even having to participate in decision making regarding dinner. I remember one day I was having a rough day at work and he asked how he could help. My reply was that I didn't want to have to make any more decisions that day but when I got home, he hadn't planned dinner and asked me what I wanted. DUDE! Worse, I had to then go get supplies as he was still fully wrapped up in his work. He found it easy and graceful living together because I did more work. The "too much labour" song played in my head quite a bit those two months... And no, I haven't been that blunt with him because I largely expect it to be a whole different set of challenges this time, not those ones. And if he ever doesn't have dinner planned again when I've specifically said I don't want to make decisions, I'll have toast for dinner as I'm happy to do, and he can uber eats whatever he likes.

Adam is probably a little easier than that, tbh, but then the issue with him is that we aren't sure how much he'll be earning, and a tight budget will have its own stressors. I'm also wondering just how much time we'll even spend together, or will we simply retreat to our own rooms. He spends a lot of time on his computer, and I am just developing projects I want to work on, too. So how will it work? How much will we actually share, and if it isn't a lot, then what's the point? I'm afraid that I'll just end up being the financial support while he gets to work part time and deeply pursue his passions. Which is something I stupidly wished out loud many, many years ago when we were newly together than I was smitten, but now I'm struggling with not having the ability spend money doing the things I've always dreamed about (travel, mainly).

My current flat is as close to a bedsit as you can get with other people in the house, and I've been happy here. I can have cornflakes or toast for dinner with no judgement if I'm totally out of energy to cook or decide on anything else. Sure, it will be nice to be living in a place that's sort of even more "my own" (as much as a rental can be) but it's not my ideal. And then there's going to be the new side of things, bouncing back and forth between my place with Adam, and wherever Puck ends up staying. I've talked about 50/50, but I'm thinking about how I can make something more like 33/33/33 with one of those being MY nights with ME. Honestly, I often work really late on Monday and Tuesday nights, so once school begins again, there will be that to be deliberate about. And there's going to be fairly regular nights that Adam is out late, I just don't know when those will be yet. In my dream world, we'd all have one bedroom units in pretty close proximity, but that's just crazy talk in this economy. I've bought a lotto ticket for tonight, though, just in case lol.

There's just so many unknowns, and this morning Adam also told me that the roof is taking a lot of time to mend and hindsight would have been to just replace the damn thing with ColorSteel, but we're a little too far into the mending process now. So it doesn't look like we'll be listing until the new year, sigh, and how long the sales process will take. Adam even joked that he anticipates it will go under offer very quickly, but then he's been wrong about everything else to date (his words). So I added another month of house costs to our budget forecast. I've got us paying for the damn thing through to June, so a sale any time before that would be great.

Luxury problems, all of it. And sooner or later, I'll have even better problems, because I'm determined to overcome the current challenges and work towards living a life fully by design.
 
The Xmas curse...closed services!

My lawnmower man just quit (he's been unreliable for months and he finally admitted to new full time job) and I've been trying to find an alternative provider and everything is saying they aren't taking on new clients until January.

And then a text from my medical centre saying please book a follow up appointment at your earliest convenience...but the first available day is 29 December. Sigh. And of course they have put my test results on my accessible records so I've just been learning quite a lot about what the imaging report says. Mostly, it says more tests needed. Or possibly just antibiotics. So I get to just chill with that possibility for the next couple of weeks of the Xmas break. I'm not sure what I'll tell Adam or Puck, if anything yet. Perhaps I'll just say that it looks like I have a chronic low grade infection and I'll probably get a swab then antibiotics. The notes said that's part of the differential, after all. Not the biggest part of the notes... but it's there.

I'm currently visiting Adam and there's sooooo much to do around the house and no, I'm not very good at doing it. It's been stinking hot but the weather is about to break and rain, so yay for that. On that note, I should go pick up the bulbs I lifted so they don't get wet.
 
So, when my throat first got sore and I was miserable about that, I ended up in a conversation with Lance since I was awake fretting at midnight, which was favourable for his time zone. So, bless him, of course he told me I was being silly and it was going to pass etc. so he's now getting the text to say it's not precisely passed yet and I'm having to hurry up and wait for a follow up.

I'm spending today with Adam and then I'll go home tomorrow.

Update: I went into the village where my phone actually works for calls and called my medical centre and asked if I should be having an earlier appointment. I've got one for this Friday.
 
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My doc ran a bunch of blood tests and is reasonably confident he's found the culprit (which is nothing serious - and antibiotics won't help) and is going to monitor for a while to check that it's not masking something serious.

I've been going back through my blood test records over the past few years and generally I'm pretty good. I run a bit low on iron most of the time but I hate the side effects of the supplements, sigh. I really need to improve my diet overall. I'm also just a little low on protein and albumin (low end of normal). I don't have other signs of liver disease so it really is just that I need more protein in my diet. I eat more meat than I used to, but obviously not enough of all the other protein things. Or iron things. Sigh. But my palate has changed quite dramatically since starting ritalin (such as way less interest in fried foods) so I guess it's time to really start experimenting with what I like.

Puck arrives in 5 days!!! He's currently in the thick of Christmas with Renee's family visiting, and they aren't out to them, so we're only texting at the moment. But that leads to it's own heart to hearts.

It's raining heavily here right now, damnit, I should have done the laundry yesterday. Boxing day sales have started, so that means my new bed hunt has also started, or will do when I can actually get up and at 'em. But the earliest I can get it delivered is the 9th as that's when I get the keys to my new place :) Things are about to get crazy! I start house sitting tomorrow, too. I'll take my work stuff so I can hopefully nail that off before Puck arrives. It's one of those things that is both boring and interesting, depending on how engrossed I get.

I'm still trying to shake this brain fog that just won't shoo today. I should go get some essential groceries, perhaps that will help.
 
Puck is on the plane! All going well he should be landed here in 23 hours.
 
It's been a little over 48 hours with Puck and things are wonderful đŸ¥°

Well, he's actually feeling a little under the weather this morning and has possibly picked up a bug on his travels, but there's very little to do today and he can relax and nap as required (we have a public holiday on the 2nd of January so it's quieter than normal anyway.) If he's feeling up to it, there's a social dance group this evening that we'll go check out.

We had a delightful New Year's Eve, albeit just hanging out at the place we're staying for this first couple of weeks. The weather has been pretty awful but we made it down to the beach yesterday and enjoyed climbing over the rocks and walking along the shore. It was still a bit rainy on and off and, because we had torrential rain on both the 26th and the 30th, there have been warnings out not to swim due to poor water quality; we just need a couple of days for the tides to turn and take away anything washed into the harbour. I'm looking forward to swimming with him.

Meanwhile, I've had to alert Adam to massive power draw that's been happening on the house for the past few nights - I hate to think what the power bill is going to be and there's no real indication why it's happening except possibly a leak on the hot water cylinder, although the plumber has already been over and said that it was a cold water leak, not a hot water one. Perhaps he was wrong. Sigh. Why does this have to be happening NOW, just before we're going to sell?

In a week, I get the keys to my new place with Adam, although it's going to be nearly three weeks until he gets here, so I get to set up the basics in the kitchen and my room and bathroom/laundry. I'm going to have to get used to living with so many stairs, but surely that will be good for my overall physical wellbeing. The lease is for a year, so if we really hate it we can move after that. Adam seems to think we'll be able to buy again in a year, but I don't think the bank will see it the same way.
 
Puck and I are largely over that bug he picked up on his travels. The social dance group was cancelled and then we both got too sick to do much so that's still something to look forward to. Our house sit has ended and we're now at the place that will become Adam's and my primary residence, but Adam doesn't get here until next week. It's a bit sparce since we don't have much lounge furniture, but we're making do. I scored a great couch (I hope Adam will like it!) and today we just picked up a dining table. I'm op shopping almost everything and doing really well at keeping costs down and finding quality pieces, but it's all still a bunch of costs. I really hope Adam gets some work quickly.

Puck will move into a long stay Airbnb from Monday. I'll get Adam settled and then work out a schedule to bounce between the two places.

I saw the doc last Monday and he wasn't happy that my lymph nodes were still up so he referred me to an ENT (because the lymph nodes are in my neck). Yesterday, I got a call from the hospital to book that and at first I didn't really hear anything but the word "hospital" and I went into a little panic thinking someone was calling me about one of my parents - they are both pretty high risk right now - but then it dawned on me she was talking about me hahaha. She said it would be a full clinical appointment - she talked about there being something like four clinicians and two nurses (I definitely heard the two nurses part because nurses are awesome) and I'd have a biopsy and a bunch of other stuff and it would take about 2 hours. Golly! (BTW, this stuff is all free to the patient here as my taxes cover it, but obviously they are expensive procedures and a lot of man hours and I feel a bit guilty that so much is happening over what is very likely to be something trivial.) It's also going to happen on the morning of what should have been my first day back at school with students, sigh, so I'll have to arrange sick leave already. I won't try and go back in for the afternoon given I'll be poked and prodded so much and probably feeling a bit overwhelmed, and it's still better that it's just the orientation day for the new year group rather than a classes day.

The marketing photos have been taken for the house sale and honestly, I'm checked out of the whole process, but I have to go up there tomorrow to pick up a small load of stuff and probably do some admin stuff with Adam.

Today, I finished moving out of my room where I've been boarding for the last two years. I cleaned it top to bottom, thrice, and got my bond back and a discount on the last utility bill! It's a bit sad that's a chapter of my life over; it was a great place to live and if I had have been single, I'd have saved a LOT of money given it was so cheap. My flatmate must be doing precisely that as I'm sure he must be earning quite well. My landlord said that I'd be welcome back if things don't work out here, bless him.
 
Puck and I are largely over that bug he picked up on his travels. The social dance group was cancelled and then we both got too sick to do much so that's still something to look forward to. Our house sit has ended and we're now at the place that will become Adam's and my primary residence, but Adam doesn't get here until next week. It's a bit sparce since we don't have much lounge furniture, but we're making do. I scored a great couch (I hope Adam will like it!) and today we just picked up a dining table. I'm op shopping almost everything and doing really well at keeping costs down and finding quality pieces, but it's all still a bunch of costs. I really hope Adam gets some work quickly.

Puck will move into a long stay Airbnb from Monday. I'll get Adam settled and then work out a schedule to bounce between the two places.

I saw the doc last Monday and he wasn't happy that my lymph nodes were still up so he referred me to an ENT (because the lymph nodes are in my neck). Yesterday, I got a call from the hospital to book that and at first I didn't really hear anything but the word "hospital" and I went into a little panic thinking someone was calling me about one of my parents - they are both pretty high risk right now - but then it dawned on me she was talking about me hahaha. She said it would be a full clinical appointment - she talked about there being something like four clinicians and two nurses (I definitely heard the two nurses part because nurses are awesome) and I'd have a biopsy and a bunch of other stuff and it would take about 2 hours. Golly! (BTW, this stuff is all free to the patient here as my taxes cover it, but obviously they are expensive procedures and a lot of man hours and I feel a bit guilty that so much is happening over what is very likely to be something trivial.) ...

The marketing photos have been taken for the house sale and honestly, I'm checked out of the whole process, but I have to go up there tomorrow to pick up a small load of stuff and probably do some admin stuff with Adam.

Today, I finished moving out of my room where I've been boarding for the last two years... It's a bit sad that's a chapter of my life over; it was a great place to live and if I had have been single, I'd have saved a LOT of money given it was so cheap... My landlord said that I'd be welcome back if things don't work out here, bless him.
I'm so glad Puck is there! Best wishes for all the arrangements working out as smoothly as possible, jobs for the guys, housing stuff.

As I said to Aries the other day, poly is complicated. And my partners and my metamour Malachi all live 10ish minutes apart. Aries's other gf lives about 75 minutes away in the next state south of here. But still, all the coming and going. I guess I am lucky I am not one of the traveling ones, as Aries and Pixi just both take turns coming to my house.

Your low-key health-problem mysteries seem to have gone on forever! I hope the dx is close.
 
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