In my "real" life - I am a pretty conservative, straight-laced, plain, boring, go-with-the-flow, timid person.
But I love women who are not afraid to be different, strong, out-spoken, individuals - like: Pink, Gwen Stefani, Kat Von D.
In my "sexual" life - I am a little more outgoing, open, forceful - I have a very dirty, kinky side that ONLY my husband knows about. I like to think of "that" side of me as my alter-ego Kat - after Kat Von D. She is one tough, say it like it is, I-don't-care-what-people-think, take control, bitch!
I WISH I was more like that in my "real" life!
As for the Tails - there are a few reasons why I chose this. I think cattails look like dicks AND my kinky side was thinking of a cat o' nine tails - though I have never used one. Might be interesting....