Indigomontoya
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sharing and awareness is always good.
Poly Vignettes: Sharing Success & Happiness
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sharing and awareness is always good.
redpepper
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There was much success in Mono meeting PN's younger brother for the first time.
Not to mention that PN's mother didn't drink tonight. I gave her tons of praise, as I know she was struggling. She seems to think that she is not as good as other female relatives in the family. I reminded her of the support she gave us and continues to give us.
I know she talked to bro ahead of time and that they were well-versed on the dynamic our tribe has. Thanks to her, we are confident and feel loved, regardless of how much they get it. That, to me, makes her an amazing woman. She should feel very confident that she is awesome.
Not to mention that PN's mother didn't drink tonight. I gave her tons of praise, as I know she was struggling. She seems to think that she is not as good as other female relatives in the family. I reminded her of the support she gave us and continues to give us.
I know she talked to bro ahead of time and that they were well-versed on the dynamic our tribe has. Thanks to her, we are confident and feel loved, regardless of how much they get it. That, to me, makes her an amazing woman. She should feel very confident that she is awesome.
Breathesgirl
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Amazing indeed!
TruckerPete
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MonoVCPHG
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I believe the last few days have deepened the connection I have with Redpepper's parents. Today we had a good talk when RP was out with her friend. We talked about my past, the experiences I have had.
I must admit working with her dad around the cottage is both enjoyable and sad. He respects hard work, just as my dad does, and it reminded me of working with my own father.
Her parents are more and more a part of my life and I find myself developing a greater sense of responsibility for their welfare, in a good way.
I must admit working with her dad around the cottage is both enjoyable and sad. He respects hard work, just as my dad does, and it reminded me of working with my own father.
Her parents are more and more a part of my life and I find myself developing a greater sense of responsibility for their welfare, in a good way.
redpepper
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I believe the last few days have deepened the connection I have with Redpepper's parents. Today we had a good talk when RP was out with her friend. We talked about my past, the experiences I have had and I must admit working with her dad around the cottage is both enjoyable and sad; he respects hard work just as my dad does and it reminded me of working with my own father. Her parents are more and more a part of my life and I find myself developing a greater sense of responsibility for their welfare...in a good way
You won over J (my ex-wife) too. She doesn't have the best role models of men in her life and she is enthralled and intrigued about why I love you.
MonoVCPHG
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Derby threw a great New Years party with lots of diverse friends and totally cheesy '90s music! I got to know some new people on a human level, as opposed to judging them on what they do in the bedroom, and feel really good about actively reaching out to them.
Geminigirl was there, as well (looking mighty fine), and there were lots of people from our community and other social circles.
The thing I really noticed this time, for me, was just how non-relationship-dynamic the night was. Because we were in a group of accepting people from poly, and mono people, there was no great interest in how all of us lived. We just had fun.
Because I was so relaxed and felt safe in this environment, I may have overindulged and over-danced, but it was a fantastic night that brought the community together.
Geminigirl was there, as well (looking mighty fine), and there were lots of people from our community and other social circles.
The thing I really noticed this time, for me, was just how non-relationship-dynamic the night was. Because we were in a group of accepting people from poly, and mono people, there was no great interest in how all of us lived. We just had fun.
Because I was so relaxed and felt safe in this environment, I may have overindulged and over-danced, but it was a fantastic night that brought the community together.
geminigirl
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Did you overindulge? I didn't notice. C and I just commented that you were dancin' mighty fine, hee!
Aw, thanks, btw. I was feeling (uncharacteristically) overwhelmed New Year's Eve by the large party, so it was good to have you and RP and Derby and a few other special people there. So happy to be able to start a new year with so many good friends!
Aw, thanks, btw. I was feeling (uncharacteristically) overwhelmed New Year's Eve by the large party, so it was good to have you and RP and Derby and a few other special people there. So happy to be able to start a new year with so many good friends!
MonoVCPHG
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I didn't notice. C and I just commented that you were dancin' mighty fine, hee!
Aw, thanks, btw. I was feeling (uncharacteristically) overwhelmed New Year's Eve by the large party, so it was good to have you and RP and Derby and and a few other special people there. So happy to be able to start a new year with so many good friends!
Mighty fine is not quite the words I would use to describe the way my body moves with music and alcohol, but thanks.
A lot of those good friends would have never met if it wasn't for the community-building initiatives you started, Geminigirl. We always keep that in mind.
TruckerPete
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I had a perfect New Year's Eve. To start, Indigo and I went to eat at a classy place in town. We had a lovely dinner, then went for a walk and had coffee after.
He then dropped me at Mr. A's, where I had some much needed time to myself. Had a great shower and curled up in bed with a book, waiting for Mr. A to come back from dinner with his parents.
He got back and we had a great time. It was his first positive experience with a SO on NYE, so I was happy to be there for him. We played Halo and chatted with Indigo, then went to bed and spent much of the next day together. Indigo picked me up and we had a nice nap together that afternoon.
Just a wonderful 24 hours!
He then dropped me at Mr. A's, where I had some much needed time to myself. Had a great shower and curled up in bed with a book, waiting for Mr. A to come back from dinner with his parents.
He got back and we had a great time. It was his first positive experience with a SO on NYE, so I was happy to be there for him. We played Halo and chatted with Indigo, then went to bed and spent much of the next day together. Indigo picked me up and we had a nice nap together that afternoon.
Just a wonderful 24 hours!
LovingRadiance
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Maca and I had a really good talk in the tub yesterday about some highly-sensitive topics. We had another today.
On New Years we went to my brother's place with the WHOLE family. Our whole family AND his whole family, stepbrother's whole family and my mom and baby sister.
We weren't "closeted." We were "all out" and no one freaked out or was uncomfortable.
On New Years we went to my brother's place with the WHOLE family. Our whole family AND his whole family, stepbrother's whole family and my mom and baby sister.
We weren't "closeted." We were "all out" and no one freaked out or was uncomfortable.
MonoVCPHG
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Happy anniversary, Lilo!
Happy Anniversary, Lilo!!! Can you believe we have shared each others lives for two years? I have been blessed by your beauty, energy, intellect and passion. You are truly my my best friend, the most intense and open lover and caring heart I could imagine. Your time is always a gift, your passion a privilege that I am honored to share. I have learned so much from your acceptance of diversity and have been shown ways of loving family that has forever changed me.
I love you.
XOXOXOXOX
Happy Anniversary, Lilo!!! Can you believe we have shared each others lives for two years? I have been blessed by your beauty, energy, intellect and passion. You are truly my my best friend, the most intense and open lover and caring heart I could imagine. Your time is always a gift, your passion a privilege that I am honored to share. I have learned so much from your acceptance of diversity and have been shown ways of loving family that has forever changed me.
I love you.
XOXOXOXOX
FlameKat
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*Bigtime smiley faces*
Congrats to you both, and to the rest of your gang
Love and hugs to you both (cos you need so much more
) LOL*pulling my head back in again*
Derbylicious
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marksbabygirl
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Indigomontoya
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TP, Mr. A, and I had our usual Thursday night dinner. TP made AMAZING shepherd's pie. Gaming, tv, etc. and it was great.
TP and Mr. A have their six month anniversary this Saturday. I'm happy for them, since it's Mr. A's longest relationship ever, so TP told me. I know he makes her happy, and it's really great to have seen it progress.
TP and Mr. A have their six month anniversary this Saturday. I'm happy for them, since it's Mr. A's longest relationship ever, so TP told me. I know he makes her happy, and it's really great to have seen it progress.
MonoVCPHG
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Who would have thought?
Redpepper and PN were inspired to create the first ever "Samurai Stew" family get-together tonight! LOL RP's parents came over and PN and LB made us all origami samurai hats (for lack of a better word). We had great food, lots of laughs and just enjoyed each other's company.
These dinners are so relaxed and commonplace now, that they don't seem worth sharing anymore. There just doesn't seem to be any family struggle with respect to PN, RP, or my own parents anymore. It is very normalized and I am enjoying the purity of having more loving family.
Redpepper and PN were inspired to create the first ever "Samurai Stew" family get-together tonight! LOL RP's parents came over and PN and LB made us all origami samurai hats (for lack of a better word). We had great food, lots of laughs and just enjoyed each other's company.
These dinners are so relaxed and commonplace now, that they don't seem worth sharing anymore. There just doesn't seem to be any family struggle with respect to PN, RP, or my own parents anymore. It is very normalized and I am enjoying the purity of having more loving family.
MonoVCPHG
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Karma
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Talked to Cricket today. Not just "spoke to", but talked.
I am feeling better about a lot of things. I understand why this last month has gone the way it has. No promises, no expectations, aside from taking things one day at a time, as she can handle them, and for her to try to let me know what's going on in her head, and for me to make sure she feels like I'm listening instead of just dismissing her out of hand.
It's a long story... I may explain later, I may not. I'm still processing a lot of things. But at least I CAN process them. That's worlds better than where I was.
I am feeling better about a lot of things. I understand why this last month has gone the way it has. No promises, no expectations, aside from taking things one day at a time, as she can handle them, and for her to try to let me know what's going on in her head, and for me to make sure she feels like I'm listening instead of just dismissing her out of hand.
It's a long story... I may explain later, I may not. I'm still processing a lot of things. But at least I CAN process them. That's worlds better than where I was.