He needed to stop taking the ones he stopped taking.
He was having side effects including increased depression, anxiety & paranoia.
He didn't stop taking his ADD meds, his blood pressure meds or his sleep meds. But he needed to stop taking the pain meds (he has a shoulder injury).
When he comes home he can go talk to the doctor about it and see if they can recommend something else. But he needed to stop taking them.
ANYWAY-he is doing better.
We talked some today. He's taking a nap now.
He's getting sick (go figure).
We didn't get into the boundaries yet. We covered the "what changed" topics and discussed the "where are we going"-which essentially nothing changed in regards to where we are going; but he freaked that the things that have changed between GG and I may have changed my plans. They haven't.
So the conversation was reassuring for him. And some of his big "OMG she must mean this..." thoughts were addressed & put to rest.
I took some advice from Nycindie's writing here and shared it with him and how I think it could benefit us personally in regards to our relationship and our poly dynamic and boundaries. He was slightly defensive at first; but he listened and after thinking about it he agreed that it actually makes a lot of sense.
So we are in process of addressing things and talking through them. But he needed a nap. So he's resting and I'm taking a break.