Stinging. I decided to try one more date with this woman I've gone out with a couple times, but who doesn't seem ready for the kind of relationship I want. Well, she's in her early 30's, and she's telling me over dinner how badly she wants a baby. I'm trying to be understanding, though I've never experienced that biological clock thing, and I don't generally enjoy children.
Anyway, afterwards, we go back to my place. Her phone is blowing up. She tells me she's got an ex-lover coming into town, and she'd sort of promised him a booty call. Then she tells me she's only doing it to "steal" his sperm: she's ovulating, she's gone off birth control, she doesn't want to tell him because she knows he doesn't want kids. Needless to say, I am frigging appalled. I pointed out how unethical her actions are, such a violation to this guy, and she admits I'm right. Still, her phone is blowing up, this guy is ready for her. At that point, I just wanted her gone. I put a smile on my face and told her "go do what you need to do." And she left.
A few minutes later she calls me to tell me she's decided not to sleep with the guy after all. I guess I was supposed to be glad. I told her she and I would not be dating again. She apologized profusely, and I said we could still be friends, (I just meant Facebook friends.) I figure when someone leaves your date to go to a booty call to steal sperm, that is a huge red flag.